Potty training and ds playing bed time games

[Tatat]

Just started pt ds 2.5. It's going really well and I am pleased that he's quite excited about the whole thing.
Bed time has been a bit of a pain, but I'm prepared to just grin and bear it for a while. DS has twigged that saying "I want a wee" or "I want a poo" will get him out of his cot and onto the loo/potty if I have only just tucked him in.
He is wearing a nappy for bed time/day time nap but if he is still awake and tells me he needs the loo I am letting him try. Is this the best way to do it? In my head I have thought that if he tells me he needs the loo I should help him use it- nappy is really only there for when he can't say anything (cos he's asleep). Otherwise I am worried about conflicting messages that I'd send by "allowing" him to do a wee etc in his nappy just because it's bed time.
Bed time has taken a couple of hours because he's up and down to the potty all the time- I don't want to say "no you're just playing about, it's bedtime" because I want him to know that I'll listen to him if he tells me he needs to go. (Also, after 1hr last night he actually did do a monster poo, think he was a bit constipated, so I know that he wasn't really playing games for the first hour)
Should I let him wee n poo is his nappy if he is wearing it? Or am I doing the right thing in getting him out of bed/pj's nappy off onto the potty, even if this means he's not going to bed until really late (for him, so 9pm last night eg)?

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Any evening mumsnetters who can offer advice?
Thanks

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It was awful again last night- couple of hours of "i need a wee/poo" - he hadn't had a poo all day either (unusual) so I let him sit on the loo/potty if he wanted. He finally fell asleep on my lap in his bedroom at about 9.

An awful night ensued with him waking at 2 and saying he was scared of the piggy (????!) ended up coming into our bad and wriggling all night, kept waking me up to check I was awake (bless)- not had a night like this since he was about 18 months old. Is all of this related to potty training? If so can anyone shed light on what might be going on in his poor little head?

He woke up dry thins morning but we had an hour of on/off loo when he did a wee & poo (could tell it was brewing!)

I must be doing something wrong but need your collective wisdom to identify what this is.

Help!

Hi Tatat
I'm not sure if I have any words of wisdom, but just wanted you to know you are not alone! We started potty training DD over Easter and it is going really well, but bedtimes have become a nightmare - wee/poo/wee/poo over and over again, and getting hysterical if we don't get her up! I also didn't want to discourage her so I would get her up - and she would normally manage to squeeze out a few drops just to prove that she wasn't feigning it! However, it got to the point of being ridiculous - taking up to 2 hours to get her to sleep, so she wakes up grumpy the next day and everyone is generally miserable! So, a couple of nights ago I decided to set some rules - she has a wee when she brushes her teeth, and I take her through for another wee just after storytime/before bedtime, and then I will get her up for one more after I have put her into bed - and that's it! She was very upset the first night tbh, but I could hear in her voice it was just that she angry with us for not playing her game anymore! So I would just go into her room every 5 minutes, settle her down and say "you've been to the potty already; it's time to sleep now" and walk out again... I know people have issues with that sort of sleep training, and I do find it hard, but it has saved my sanity several times! And touch wood since then the last couple of bedtimes have been relatively easy and she has been dry through the night too! I guess it's lucky she never actually did a poo or huge wee when I was putting her down, which would have confused me - I just knew she was taking the p* so to speak! So, I don't know if that actually helps you! Hmm, perhaps he is waking up in the night because he is tired from all the late nights, iykwim? Hope it gets better!

fludnelb your dd sounds like my ds, he has latched on quickly to the fact that he can get some attention really easily. I will think about instilling more of a routine at bedtime, I like the "brush teeth wee then bed" idea so might try it out. I think we will start bed time erlier too as I think the situation is hindered by the fact that as he's taking an while to use the potty, he's shattered and grumpy by the time he actually needs to get into bed.
Thanks for your post- was beginning to think it was just us having these issues!