ds1 gutted and crying because he needs to wear pull ups

[colditz]

he is just 4.

I tried him without a pullup but 3 nights running he wet the bed twice or three times a night. so when I told him I thought it would be a good idea to wear a oull up tonight and try again when he can keep his pull up dry he went frigging ballistic. So I said, "OK, if you don't want to you don't have to", and I have put 2 of ds2's cloth nappies under his sheet.

Then right before bed, he demanded a pull up

How can I help him to be dry at night, short of lifting him every hour? He was dry for 3 months last year, but caught chicken pox and has been wet ever since, so I know he could do it. It doesn't bother me, but it sure as hell bothers him now!

It will probably get better if he can relax about it, but this isn't easy. You're doing all the right things. Of course not drinking before bed and weeing just before sleep will help a bit, but you're probably doing that already.

Oh bless him. It must be very frustrating, wanting to be a big boy but not being physically able to reach a particular stage of development. That sort of control isn't conscious, so there's not a lot he (you) can do, AFAIK, it'll happen when it happens.

I'd just let it drop as far as possible and be very matter of fact if he does get worked up about it. You could try pointing out that lots of boys aren't dry at night until they are a bit older than him.

Silly as it sounds make sure he drinks plenty during the day & esp that he has a drink as soon as he gets up - I am struggling with this atm

It did happen though, and he remembers that he didn't always wee himself at night.

It is so frustrating for him. And then he sobs and my sergeant Major like exterior dissolves and i want to regress him and put him back in my womb

Yeah, I did see that bit of your post, clearly CP set him back a bit but what I mean was he's not able just to switch it back on again (or off!). Sadly patience with bodily functions is not a key skill of 4yos...

No lol it isn't. I will make sure he gets a drink as soon as he wakes then, if that will help.

DD (9) was dry for about 4 yrs then bullying caused the regression - it's horrid for them

dd2 is 5.7 and still wets the bed , she hasn't worn nappies for about 2 years though as she just refused and if I sneake them on her she shreddedthem so now she has a kylie on her bed and I do a lot of washing.

& you can get dry-nites that say 4-7 & 7-11 so you can show him they aren't baby nappies (iyswim)

this might be not help but with my ds when he regressed we did 2 hourly toiletting an that sorted it out in about a week or so.

he has not worn a pull up since insisting he didn't need them, and he has only wet the bed once!

I am very proud of my little man, and next time I will trust him when he says he knows he can do something.

Aww that's so good to hear. Having seen the thread title, was going to say, what about those bed-mats, but sounds like you're all sorted.
(MZ resolutely trying to give own DS a week or two off any mention of potties or pants...)

Ha

of course, he wet the bed last night, but such is the price of gloating.