New mum - lonely

[MunsteadWood]

First time mum to DC aged 13 weeks. He is a lovely baby, smiley and happy and sleeps/feeds pretty well (at them moment!!) but I'm increasingly finding looking after him a really lonely experience. Dh is supportive and involved when he's around but is not home a lot as he works long hours. I am throwing myself into mother and baby groups in an effort to make friends, but finding it hard. I'm naturally quite a shy person so find it difficult to break past initial small talk and make a connection. I was at a baby & toddler event this afternoon and got chatting to another mum who seemed lovely, but somehow couldn't build up the confidence to suggest exchanging numbers. Now at home and kicking myself

Not sure what I'm posting for but guess I'm wondering if anyone else feels/felt the same, and any suggestions for how to break out of this bubble. Don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely besotted with DC and love looking after him, I suppose I just feel I need to look after me a bit more too.

Hi there,
There is a closed group of Mumsnetters on Facebook who all feel a similar way. Pop over and find us and have a chat. The group is called ChuMNs (with a capital MN)

You definitely aren't alone.

You aren’t alone! My DS is nearly one now and I still find it hard to make my m friends due to shyness. I go to groups all week but have never exchanged numbers etc as I can’t bring myself to do it.
It can get pretty lonely at times. I hope things improve for you, you sound like a great mum! X

I feel like this too, we live abroad with no family or friends nearby and it's so hard to keep going out and friend dating. I love DS but I miss adult company! I'm thinking of doing an evening class once a week for myself.