anyone had more than a 6 yr gap between babies?

[pirategirl]

I have no parter, but hope i might have another child one day, if lucky to find someone new.

I am 38 and feel time is running out.

Are there positives in a 6 yr plus gap?

positive and negatives in every age gap. i only have 11mths between mine, so not usre about 6yrs. however i imagine eldest child would like to 'help' and you can reason with a 6yo more than a smaller age gap sibling.

good luck.

Cx

i have almost 6 years between mine

older sibling does like helping and feeels very grown up, also, only one lot o fnappies, milk, up in the night to deal with

BUT

downside is finding stuff to do that a 7 year old and 1 year old can do together

pros and cons for each, i couldn't have coped with a small gap, so it worked fine for us

Hi pirategirl

I have 4 children. We have 2 ds's who are 15.5 and 11.5 then we had our 2 dd's who are 2.5 and 9 months.

There are pro's and cons to having a small/big age gap but i have enjoyed both. The big age gap is grat tho,ds1 and his lovely gf can look after the lo's if i have to nip out to the shope etc.Once dd2 is sleeping through every night properly my dh and i may even get a night out lol.It has also been nice to see the realtionship develop between the ds's and the dd's.The dd's big brothers really care for them and alays look out for them

There´s 7 years between my little sister and me.. until I was about 12 we played brilliantly together and got on, more or less, really well. When I hit adolescence she became the most irritating thing in my life and could not understand why I didn´t WANT to play with her anymore. There was little connection between us again for years and years, by the time I left home SHE was entering hideous adolescence and we were miles apart in what we were doing. BUT since she has left her teens (she´s now just 23, I´m 29) we get on really well.. we can go out drinking together, like the same bands (sometimes) etc etc.

From my POV I would rather have my little sister with such a big age gap rather than no siblings at all.

for us, a seven year gap has been great. nnNot what i wouldhave planned, and , likeevery family, its not all straightforward,but my 9 yr old and 2 yr old are currently plotting under aduvet tent both laughing their heads off. it ishardto find activities that suit both, but it workswell and happily here!

aw, i guess there are so many pros and cons, i have kind of thought to myself, thats it, no more, but maybe i will be able to give her a sibling. As dh left us i was so angry that he'd takenthat away from her, it was important to me that she have a 'ture' sibling, yet as time goes by and i get used to him walking, well i feel, hey you dont deserve another child anyhow, the way you treat this one.

For once i really feel that if it happened again, then as you say even tho they would be half siblings, that it would be better than no sibling. I guess we just will see what happens.

We are a happy little unit, me and her, she is my little mate,

thanks.

I hate the term ´half´ siblings. If they grow up together in the same house, they are siblings, true, proper, full on siblings that is no less for having had a different input for 50% of their dna!

to me the word half siblings, means that they are only half genetically the same. i was pointing towards the desire i had that i wanted another child with my husband and that that was not going to happen,
if i fell in love again and had another child, then in that situation of course it would not matter to me, and they would feel like they were indeed brothers and sister to me.

I would never go round introducing them as 'half ' anything, .

my boys are brothers 100% despite being only 50% genetically the same. they are growing up together,that is what makes them brothers. (however i have a half brother and sister who are 20 odd years older, we never lived together, i do not have the same relationship with them that i do with my 'full' sister)

there is 10 years between my bother and me ,and 8 years between my 2 , the positives are that they have completely differnt needs ,there was no competition between my brother nad myself for anything or arguments over toys etc ,however i was always envious of closer aged siblings when i was little because they had someone to play with ( obvioulsey looking through rose tinted specs and missed the fighting ,biting scratching that was also involved). The hardest p[art of a big age gap is the starting again with no sleep etc .

Pirategirl...how goes it with the PO man?

lol, no joy yet!!

only read thread title. my dd is 9 my ds is 7mths. Brill!!!! . I couldn't be happier and neitehr could dd/dh/ds

There are 11 years between mine and it has been great!
My Ds is now 14 and adores his little sister, she also worships him, he is very patient with her and dosent moan at her for barging in when he is in his room! Yet anyway!!

10 years between my dds.

Tis fab.

16 years between dd1 and dd2, some jealousy issues but other than that ok, no inbuilt baby sitter though, no no no no

oh crap! we only left such a gap for the babysitting