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Going to court for 3rd and final time for child arrangements with ex husband. I'm so scared and stressed has anyone else been through this. Help me please

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Natsboyland · 12/12/2017 14:40

Well mum's and dad,

I need help and advise. My ex has taken me to court over child arrangements due to him not able to come to a compromise and wanting far too much contact with my 19 month old. We split almost a year ago I've tried to sort contact but to no avail! It's been incredibly stressful and horrible. He has regular contact now but wants more. We have the final court in a week.. Very rare to get to this stage I have heard now the judge has to make a decision. Basically my ex is a emotionally abusive man child that throws all his toys out the pram. All of his statements from him and his family are all lies about me. That I'm desperatly trying to disprove uts made any trust gone out the window. Handovers are with his gf or his nan as I now don't get on with his mum. They arw making me out to be a scary unbalanced aggressive person and uts so not true. The issue that I had with him. That's why I never left before hand it was too hard! I knew it wasn't going to be easy.
Had anyone else had to go to court 3 times over child arrangements? What happened? I have tired to come up with a good proposal that's not going to affect my child or distress her as she's so young. I need this to be over now I'm so unhappy with how things are unfolding. I'm with a new partner to whom I adore and love and is right for me and good with my child! So good! I just want to get on with my life. I hope my ex doesn't get my child every weekebd and a day in the week... Based solely on lies. I'm so stressed about it all I'm physically being sick now. It's putting a huge strain on my new relationship that I really don't want because I need him more than ever now and h. Doesn't deserve this either. Any advice or stories would be so good.
Thanks

OP posts:
beingsunny · 19/12/2017 22:02

I'm sorry but you are both her parents and she is entitled to a relationship with both of you.
Does he pose any danger to her?
Is there any reason he can't be an equal parent?
Because of her age they may set a plan with increasing time/visits until she is old enough for sleepovers if that's not already happening.

tiktok · 20/12/2017 12:46

I can understand how stressful this must be.

What does Cafcass say? Have you seen their report?

Child arrangements orders do sometimes take several sessions to resolve.

If you think your dd is at risk from her father, then of course you must raise this. But if she is safe with him, and he has PR, then it will be very difficult for you to prevent contact.

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