DS's teacher doesnt like me!

[lifesteeth]

I get the feeling that my sons (6) teacher does not like me. My son has behavioural problems and so for the past few months I have gone for a quick report at the end of each day just to make sure he's been ok, this was her idea and she didn't mind when he was being naughty but as soon as he started being good she didnt want to know and more or less rolled her eyes when she saw me going over to her like I was some obsessive, over-protective mum .

Now whenever I'm waiting to talk to her she begins a conversation with whoever is present at the time and drags it out on purpose before, half the time walking off straight afterwards even though she knows I'm waiting to speak to her.

Tuesday night for instance my son had started a football club so when he came out of school he rushed over to me and told me that I needed to speak to his teacher and give permision etc so he could go...the teacher MUST Have heard him and she quickly busied herself by making conversation with another mum so I waited for ages to speak to her and when she had no option but to acknowledge that I was there she turned to speak to me.

She seems obsessed with a set of twins in the class and everytime she see's their mum she rushes over to speak to her, usually blabbering on about how sweet they've been and how kind they were to each other etc!

Last night I needed to speak to her about my sons trip money so as I walked over to her she saw me and quickly made conversation with a little boy who started rambling on about another kids bag, he couldnt get his words out properly so kept repeating the same sentance, the teacher stood patiently listening to him (fair enough) but when he'd finished speaking she drew the conversation out further knowing full well that I was stood there waiting to speak to her

Today I took the trip money to her (and she must've heard me say to my son "I'm just taking the trip money over to your teacher" and she turned her back to me and started cooing over someones baby asking about their holidays, where they're going, have they been before etc...all the while I'm stood there like an idiot waiting to give my sons trip money in .

What makes me more cross is that she doesnt treat the other parents like this and she knows full well that I have another child that I need to pick up from a different part of the school so can't stand around for ages waiting...

Is her behaviour "off" or am I being paranoid?

Her behaviour is rude IMO. Could you book a formal appointment and ask her if she wishes to change the arrangement she made with you for informal chats/feedback? Perhaps she would prefer a more formal feedback meeting once a week? She doesn't sound very professional to me.

Sounds to me as though she is being incredibly rude too. You also sound exceedingly patient , to be honest i would interupt any holiday chit chat with a quick 'sorry to interrupt but i have to pick up dc2 ,could i just give you ds trip money , thanks ' ,if you do this a couple of times she will get the message that everytime you approach her you arnt going to want a full review of your sons day at school .

agree with hatric, aske for a meeting with her and tell her how you feel. just ask has she got a problem with you, if she says no then explain your reasons for thinking that she has.

I also agree with ratclare, interrupt her when she having chit chat and be blunt and straight to the point, this may stop it happening at all.

I have a similar problem with dd teacher , she has been very off with me since dd father tried to speak to her last year about dd and she just walked off in a huff during his conversation with her.

The situation has never resolved itself and she does exactly what your ds teacher does, always deeep in conversation about most of the time with otther parents about 'how are you' type conversations when I think she is well aware I am waiting and have to leg to the train station for work.

I am keeeping a complete written log (how sad) of all homework , issues etc every day before I book an appointment with her in the next few weeks, I want to make sure I have all my facts properly right this time. I can sympathise though .