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Baby behaves differently for dad

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user1488794856 · 10/12/2017 14:37

Does anybody else find this...
I have a 10 month old DD and I am a stay at home mum. During the week I am the sole care giver for DD and she can be very very clingy with me. I have given up trying to do anything during the week as she will cry if I leave the room, or cling to my ankles if I try to do anything like wash bottles etc. Even going to the toilet usually means taking her with me in order to not have to listen to her cry the whole time.

At the weekends however, it's a different story. When dh is here she is good as gold. She will play and chat away at her toy box, watch him as he washes dishes etc and is generally anl pleasure to be around.

What am I doing wrong :( I have had enough today, it makes me feel like I'm a terrible mum. Dh never sees what my weeks are actually like and how exhausting it all is because she isn't like it when he is around.

Is it me?

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BellyBean · 10/12/2017 15:11

It's normal and shows she has a good attachment to you. My understanding is you've not done anything wrong and it's a phase, don't try to train her to cope by leaving her for increasing periods or anything, it could make it worse

Chaosofcalm · 10/12/2017 15:44

Another person say it is all completely normal separation anxiety. She has realised how much she relies on you and needs you. It will eventually get better.

ohcecelia · 10/12/2017 16:30

It's definitely not you. I couldn't do anything with my DD at that age, clean, cook meals, nothing. She was so good for DP that when he came home and I said what hard work she'd been he never believed me! It just shows what a good mum you are and how attached she is - she'll grow out of it eventually :)

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Brandnewstart · 10/12/2017 16:34

I think at this age they still see themselves as an attachment of you hence being so clingy. It shows she has good attachment although it is exhausting!

shhhfastasleep · 10/12/2017 17:50

Totally normal. My dd, now 10 would kick off if eg my dh dared be in the same room at bedtime . I told him to hold fast and that putting the shifts in with her would yield results. They are now chilling out together on the sofa, giggling about PlayStation stuff that is beyond me. It's lovely.

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