Tell me lovely stories about having 3 sons

[TresBambinos]

I have two beautiful boys who are best of friends and am about to have my third any day now. I feel like there is a lack of excitement around my baby as he's "another boy" of that people may think I'm disappointed because he's not a girl (I'm not).

However I am starting to panic about how he will affect the family dynamic. My eldest two are best of friends. They have grown so close in the last year and have a real bond. Is having another boy going to affect this and mean one is left out?

They're also VERY boisterous (or can be!) and active. How on earth am I going to cope with three very active little boys that love to wrestle and throw toys etc?

Teenage years - I'm not a boy and have never been one so how on earth am I going to relate to them during this time?

Adults - are they going to leave me and rarely contact me once they leave home as according to many they will 😔

I'd just love to hear of families with three boys and all the lovely positive things about it. I'm feeling very hormonal and guilty about having a third and sad for my youngest that he will no longer be the baby. If you have three boys or know three brothers (maybe adults now! I'd love to hear about their relationships with each other and their parents. I just hope I can bring up three respectful, polite and happy young men but am petrified 😫

My husband is one of 2 boys so I can't help with the number but they do both have a great relationship with their parents. My DBIL sees them with his DW and DC every weekend. We're too far away for that but by god does my DH love to call his mum. He was on the phone to her for hours tonight. We all go on holiday together every year, meet up over Christmas etc. His mum is a fab MIL so my SIL and I are made to feel welcome. She didn't lose 2 sons, she gained 2 daughters IYKWIM?

Congratulations

I have 3 boys, 5, 3 and 10 months. They are still little but they have started to all play together. The big two are rough with each other but really gentle with the baby. It’s lovely to watch them all playing together.

Ah lovely replies. Thank you

I have 3boys and I love it. They are the best friends and fiercely protective of each other.

I find it's good because they generally all like the same things. They are really mummy's boys all of them and I never worry about them disappearing in the future. My mum has 3 boys (and me) and they are all really close to my mum.

I get the thing about people expecting you to be disappointed but that's just their expectations. I get it ALL the time and it drives me crazy. But I've learnt to shrug it off now or I will use the mumsnet standard "did you mean to be so rude?". Don't be scared to challenge people's comments!

Congratulations on your lovely 3 boys

I have 2 boys but I’m now pregnant with a girl and actually, I’m slightly disappointed! I wanted 3 sons! My DH is one of 3 boys and they are all so close now. They still have that ‘childish’ bond they had as kids and I love watching them together. They still all go to their mums on a Sunday and would do anything for her. They love her despite her mistakes, it’s so wonderful to see.

I’m the girl born after 2 boys and my brothers are still close whereas I’m very left out and was as a child. They always had a play mate and I didn’t. Honestly, you’ll have the most amazing bond with your sons and they will be utterly devoted to you!

I have two boys and if I were to have another baby I would love to have another boy!!!

Do you watch Britain's Got Talent?
Do you remember a few series ago there was a family singing group which consisted of a dad and his 3 sons who were all in their 20s? I wish I could remember the name of the group. Anyway, seeing all those brothers lined up together just melted my heart and then they showed old clips of them growing up together and playing together as children and it was just wonderful. Seeing the bond between the brothers and also the bond with their dad made me well up a little. It even had Simon Cowell emotional!

I'm going to go and google them and then YouTube them so I can watch their audition again

Anyway - congratulations on your pregnancy OP and I'm so, so jealous you're getting another boy to add to your brood as DH has told me no more babies!!

It's lovely reading these. Keep them coming

DH is one of 4 boys - all very different all very close growing up and still when they get together they have a great bond. DH has a great relationship with his parents - we don't see them as much as we would like due to distance but they have a probably better adult relationship than I do with my parents who live a few miles away. They were high energy growing up but loved sport and had relatively few teenage dramas. I am one of 5 but 3 girls we are and were harder work I think.

I have 3 boys, aged 12, 11 and nearly 7 (birthday this week, been reminded enough to make sure I don't forget!!). Generally they all get along ok, although eldest is now in first year secondary and has hormones flying all over the place too so can be a little 'trying' at times! That said he and youngest tend to get along better than middle son and youngest, but when eldest isn't about the other two do rub along quite happily too.

Sometimes there can be a bit of friction when one seems intent on winding anyone within a 500ft radius up, generally short lived though. I am a lucky Mum, all three are thoughtful and caring lads (not always towards each other though!) and have positive outlooks and attitudes (various family crises along the way that they've weathered well).

All in all, having three boys is great! I've never been a 'girly girl' (a fair bit of my childhood was spent making dens and climbing trees) and we have a lot of fun together. It's busy, loud and chaotic most of the time, peace and quiet is a rare thing (usually only found when they are staying with their dad!). You will have a wonderful time, enjoy it and congratulations too!!

I have 3ds and it is great fun. They take it in turns to get on with each other and at times they will all play together. It is so easy to pass down clothes, bikes, toys etc and when we go places they are all into similar things. I would not know what to do with a girl!!!! The three are very similar ages which again makes it easier. It is noisy and busy but when they were younger we spent a lot of time outside! I do have to think carefully about my sensitive ds2 but he has always loved his baby brother so no problems there.

I don't have 3 children but I'd have liked to have had so I'm jealous of you for that! I'm one of 5 girls and I think it's great to have same sex siblings so I think your boys will love it.

I have 3 boys - ages 13, 11 and nearly 7 in a few weeks. I also have 3 older brothers. I’m used to boys and feel I know how to deal with them having been brought up in such a male dominated family. My sons are very loving and treat me with love and compassion and are dare I say it very adoring of me. It’s chaotic lively and loud household. The outbursts of friction between them are short lived ... they have a great bond that my DH and I are trying to reinforce by talking to them
About the importance of siblings.... there are times when I have felt a little left out when DH is doing stuff with them I’m not into but most of the
Time it’s fab and I have never truly craved a girl.... congrats to you for your lovely family! And soon to be new DS!

I have 3 boys. Don’t expect him to be boisterous just because the others two are. My third son has always been calmer than his brothers. He’s never been into the same kind of stuff as his brothers (or his sister come to think of it). Congrats and enjoy!

Also, he’s the bravest of all my kids. I think that’s because he’s the 4th though and has always been expected to keep up. He’ll quietly and doggedly try anything and everything.

4 boys here.
They are all very different but very close. They rarely fight and are each others best friends (genuinely). They are also very protective of their younger siblings and look up to their older ones.
DS3 is the funniest of the 4. He's also the most chilled out.
Good luck . If you think the "how do you feel about ANOTHER boy?" comments are bad after DS3 wait until you are pregnant with ds4!

My boys are now 20, 22 and 24, and I can honestly say that having three boys is great - yes, there are challenges, and at times I have felt like I don’t understand them as well as I’d understand a girl - but I do think that my understanding of them has grown as they have grown up, and what we have in common is far, far greater than our differences.

And they have grown up into lovely young men - thoughtful, funny, caring - and I get the best hugs from them. Plus they are all taller than me, And will happily get things down from high shelves for me - with the bare minimum of teasing and pats on the head from them!

I am sure that, if one of them had been a girl, I would have been equally as happy and proud, and my family would have felt just as ‘right’.

Good luck with your new arrival!

I have three boys and they are lovely. Eldest is now 14 and well over 6 foot but adorable in a way he hasn’t been since he was a toddler. I think it’s the teenage thing of being huge but still really a kid. So far having a teenage boy is great - he still does hugs, but is also really funny and can talk about politics and films and is generally interesting. He does hole up in his room and live in headphones a fair bit - but when he emerges it’s nice. The boys drive each other mad but I like the way they are protective of each other if anyone else is mean to one of them. They fight like puppies but worry about each other if any of them is hurt or upset. They are all really affectionate to me. I met a foster carer who told me she’d looked after over a hundred children. She said she liked the boys because they tended to be more cuddly.

I have three boys, all grown up now. They are 24, 22 and 20 and are good friends and very close. They enjoy each other's company and spend a lot of time together. There was a bit of fighting when they were teenagers, but that stage didn't last long.

They also seem to enjoy spending time with their dad & me, which is nice. We love having them around, they are noisy & fun.

I have one of each and they are most definitely not the best of friends. They love each other but aren't close currently. Also my brother is way closer to my mum than I am.

I have friends with 3 adult sons, I frequently look at the family and think "you must be so proud"
They are all truly lovely, kind men who will help anybody out, close to each other and their parents.
They all have great jobs and two of them got married last year, each had his two brothers as their best man.
Lovely family!

I have 2 boys and this thread is making me broody for a third...

Haha Lastone snap OP I hope you’ve had enough lovely positive tales of 3(+!) boys to relax you on your final lap before DS3 is born.
The “oh another boy?” comments are so wearisome and sadly yes will only get worse, but buckle up and go in there fighting. Attitudes need to be changed. Boys are worth as much as girls. Boys can love you as much, can be just as close to you. Your 3 beautiful boys will sustain you and provide huge joy. My dad is one of 3 brothers (now in their 60s/70s) and they have a wonderful relationship with each other. One of them went on to have 4 sons and all have settled down very close to their parents, grandchildren in and out every day.
I do occasionally have the same fears, despite all the fighting talk, but what can you do. There really is no guarantee one way or another (eg a close girlfriend of mine has just moved out to Australia to marry her Aussie partner - bet her UK-based parents weren’t expecting that! Etc) so carry on building close bonds with your boys and you’ll have done all you can.