When DD11 was in reception a little boy vomited on the carpet in front of her. It set off a fear of vomiting which we have mainly been on top of since and although she has never liked it/ been scared of it it has been manageable.
Now she is 11. It has progressed to the point that she cannot talk about/hear about/think about illness. If you cough she runs out of the room. We took her along to
a therapist who specialises in NLP/phobias and it's got worse. To the point I'm scared to take her back because it has escalated so badly.
She is now terrified of food poisoning, won't eat meat, has safe foods like toast only, she has lost 5lbs in 4 weeks. All her bones are sticking out, she's freezing cold all the time. She eats minuscule amounts and then is terrified she will be sick. She constantly has reflux symptoms ( which we think is anxiety) and a tummy ache. If she eats a substantial amount she then is in tears because she feels she may be sick.
Ironically she is is the healthiest kid ever and has only been sick once or twice her whole life. Dr has referred her for the usual tests, all came back clear, cahms useless in my area.
Has anyone got any advice on how to play this - more than happy to throw money at it even though the therapist hasn't made any difference, I have looked at hypnosis but because she became visibly
worse afterwards I am really wary about third parties. Part of me feels like it's a phase, play it down and it will pass.
She just seems like a nervous wreck - she used to be such a happy little girl, I can't bear it