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Social media, have I the right to be angry

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 16:40

My Facebook is set to private and a picture of my 11 year old is my profile picture though set to friends only.
Someone wrote a comment on a status of mine and a so called friend screenshot the entire conversation and sent it to people not on my friends list. I also commented on the conversation which meant my kids picture would have been screenshot to and passed along to god knows who. I removed my kids picture straight away because I’m pretty shook up because of it. I’m now wary about putting pictures of my kids on my private Facebook.

I’m very angry and want to confront the person because it’s my kids picture being shared about.

Am I over reacting?

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LovingLola · 03/12/2017 18:10

You would be better to quit FB than to quit university.

ScarlettOH · 03/12/2017 18:12

You’ve quit uni over this? Wtf

dementedpixie · 03/12/2017 18:15

You've overreacted by quitting your course. Never air dirty laundry on Facebook either.

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justdontevenfuckingstart · 03/12/2017 18:18

This never happened.

honeysucklejasmine · 03/12/2017 18:21

I'm sorry, every new post from you throws up a different thing you are angry about. Are you not alarmed that your profile picture was never public? Or are you bothered about bitching getting out of hand? Or immaturity? Do you want constructive advice, or a whinge?

MagnifyingGlassSearch · 03/12/2017 18:22

nuh-uh

honeysucklejasmine · 03/12/2017 18:22

Eugh. Never private

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 18:31

No I’m angry that I was being picked on, I’m angry the ones picking on me go through my Facebook from a classmates phone, I’m angry they’ve screen shot stuff and sent it to other people I’m angry my kids picture was screen shot and sent to others

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dementedpixie · 03/12/2017 18:33

You should never say anything you might regret on facebook as it finds a way of getting round everyone

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 18:35

EXcept I never typed a thing though, I give up

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dementedpixie · 03/12/2017 18:37

You said it was your status and you replied to a comment

Sirzy · 03/12/2017 18:38

So you have a problem with someone on your course. Instead of talking to them like adults or speaking to one of the course staff you complained about them on Facebook and now your upset that this has made the situation worse so your just walking away from the course?

Sounds like the lot of you need to grow up!

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 18:52

I did speak to her and was shouted down and called a liar with the backing of the class who said she wouldn’t do things like that. I wrote on Facebook I loved my family and the next family of mine started commenting as they heard I was upset, but I was upset and didn’t read what they were writing so I switched off it wasn’t until next day I found out when they were all up the back of the class talking about me and screenshotting whatever was written. I was made to delete my post. Then made to feel outcasted more than I was before.

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 18:55

IVe actually been going through a bad time of it this year, my oldest kid being diagnosed with autism and trying to take her life and I decided to go to uni after she got out of hospital to learn more about what she was going through, finding out others had similar experiences with their own kids made it feel like I wasn’t the only one going through that. I saw it as an escape route then the little digs towards me started, sneaky like but really aimed at me and it just came to a head one day.

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 18:56

SO I called the girl out on it and well it backfired on me. They could have gone through me instead they took my kids picture and shared it about

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ScarlettOH · 03/12/2017 19:11

You sound deranged. They didn’t ‘take your kids picture and share it about’, they screenshotted a comment you had made! Don’t have a picture of your kid as your profile pic if you don’t want this happen! You’re overreacting so much it’s unreal

gamerchick · 03/12/2017 19:16

OP are you even reading any of these replies? YOU put a public picture of your kid online. YOU did that. Anyone on Facebook could have seen it if they wanted to.
They didn't share a picture of your kid, they very weirdly screenshot something posted on your page.

LynetteScavo · 03/12/2017 19:30

It's sounds like you were not with the kindest of people on this course, but I'm surprised you would walk out over this.

Anyone can screen shot anyone's FB profile pic. You are the one who put it online.

You needed to ride above this.

LynetteScavo · 03/12/2017 19:32

And when you say you called some one out on FB...you mean slagged off, don't you? If you called her out it would have ben to her face, not behind her back online.

DailyMailFuckRightOff · 03/12/2017 19:45

This is all a bit odd.
It sounds like you've had a tough time with the diagnosis of your child etc, but this issue at uni seems to have blown way out of proportion.
The simplest solution would have been to quietly unfriend (or change settings so they cant see your statuses) anybody who isn't family and rise above.
It really doesn't seem like the sort of thing to quit a (roughly) £9000 per year course over.

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 22:52

I spoke to her in the uni not on Facebook, what was written on Facebook was by other people which was thenscreenshot and sentto her...I wrote on Facebook after people made digs at the girl that I was done with it and logged off. How does that make me deranged? so it’s ok to sit and have others put me down during class and it’s ok I’ve to put up with it not say a thing and continue to be made to feel bad about myself?

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 22:54

2 hours in class she made remarks nonstop and it was making me feel uncomfortable it was so bad the other person I was sitting next to told me later she felt me stiffen up as if I was uncomfortable, not only felt uncomfortable but embarrassed as well. I pulled her up about it face to face.

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Ginfiend · 03/12/2017 22:58

It’s your profile. Why not have a photo of yourself? I don’t get why people put photos of their kids as their profile picture.

Also, there’s a feature where you can view your profile as any of your friends, or see what it looks like from public. You should make use of this feature.

Stop living your life through Facebook. Don’t get involved in drama. Deactivate it if you can’t stop yourself.

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Clairenewbie · 03/12/2017 23:03

I don’t live my life through Facebook, I hardly post a thing! The one post was actually I love my sisters they cheer me up! one post in about a year...tell me would any of you be happy if someone screenshot a picture of your child and pass it through messenger etc?

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gamerchick · 03/12/2017 23:06

You’re still focusing on the photo. The photo wasn’t private in the first place. Any random not on your friends list could look at your limited profile and take screenshots of your kid.

I don’t even have myself on the public bits. If I did then I take the risks involved.

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