Realities of having 2 under 18 months

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I'm in real need of a boost. Just getting out of a period of ill health with DS who is 10 months and need to start focusing on my current pregnancy.

DS will be 13 months when DS2 arrives. After we conceived DS2, DH became employed (rather than self employed) so finances dropped and he has significantly less time. DS was a sickly newborn, in hospital for 4 weeks and due to reoccurring hospital admissions, DH was largely home until DS was roughly 12 weeks.

So the reality. I'd love to bf DS2. I didn't get the chance with DS1 as he was just too sickly and sleepy. DS1 still has minor health niggles I have other threads about this and although nothing serious, is still pretty tiring.

I have ten weeks to go. Please can someone talk to me about the nice realities of having two boys who are 13 months apart. Especially with regards to breastfeeding. I can hardly look after DS1 at the moment after this latest spate of illness has been referred to paediatrician, just waiting on the appointment and have no idea how I'm going to cope with a newborn also.

Encouraging and positive words would be amazing as well as any practical tips because, quite frankly, after the last four weeks of ill health with DS, I'm terrified.

I had dd2 when dd1 was 17 months old.
The baby part was actually fine. Dd2 just slotted in to the routines I had going for dd1 and was no bother really.
The fun started when dd2 started walking. I found having two toddlers pretty hard going.
Now, age 10.5 and nearly 12, they get on great most of the time, (when they aren't knocking 7 bells out of each other). Though they are getting quite teenage now so more fun to come I think.

My last two are 13 months apart (I have 4dc) and they are now 3 and 4 and as close as two brothers can be.
They are excited to see each other when the wake up in the morning.
They are such a little team and play so well together they always have a little gang of kids around them as other children see them having so much fun together they want to join in.
They always stick up for each other and just love being together we honestly don't call them the krays
The first year was hard work as I had 3 under 4 but I just got out as much as I could toddler groups were great as there was always someone who wanted to cuddle the baby and I got a hot cup of tea occasionally!