I don't know if I've posted this in the right place but just needing to have a bit of a rant really....my finances mum is agoraphobic which means she can't leave the house ever, now I'm really understanding of this, it's not her fault but I'm starting to get a bit upset with how she controls everything, the day after we got home after having our baby we had to go round to take the baby to see them when all I really wanted to do was go home and have a rest as I had a really long labour, which I was okay with at the time because I felt bad that she couldn't come and see her granddaughter, however since then it's been one thing after the other; they offered to buy a pram which was really kind but then we were given a £200 budget, now I'm not expecting them to pay £800+ for a pram but I would've preferred them to offer towards the pram as obviously it's difficult to find a decent pram for that price, so we suggested that we were going to pay the rest on top for the pram we wanted but they said 'we couldn't afford it' now me and my fiancé aren't millionaires but he has a good job and gets a Decent salary, I feel like it should be up to us to decide what we can afford for our baby, and now it's Christmas time and his mum has bought a load of Christmas presents which is amazing but I have no idea what she's got and the other day we mentioned we were going to get a car seat for her, and they said it was a stupid idea, she doesn't need the next one up yet, and then we went round Few days later and they've said they've bought her one? And I'm grateful but I would really love to be able to make these important choices for myself, with them it's always the cheapest you can find regardless of the quality, and with the last travel system being such a bad quality, I just wanted a really decent one that would have lasted, and when we were looking at cots they bought us a second had one without even asking, I have no problem with second hand, I personally don't buy it but it was more I feel like if you're going to get a gift it should be new. I probably sound really ungrateful but I do appreciate that they want to be so involved I would just like to be asked things first, I feel like all my important mummy decisions have been taken away from me, I've spoken to my partner about how I feel and he can kind of see where I'm coming from but never says anything, how can I go about this without seeming ungrateful?