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Advice for a father

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Tetley59 · 18/11/2017 21:46

I’m a new commentor, I’d say please be gentle but please give it to me straight!

My daughter is 9 and I’ve been separated from her mother for 6 years. We both have moved on, I’ve been with my partner 3 years and her & partner 5 years, however her partner is currently in prison for a long stretch re firearm offences, of which he has a long history of.

When I got with my current, my ex didn’t approve and warned she wasn’t to have any contact with our child, and threatened to block contact with me altogether if she found out. I obviously didn’t comply with this demand, and most of these threats have been false. However, my contact was halved by the mother (fortnightly weekends instead of every weekend) when she discovered we all went out for the day together. I sought legal advice and, to cut a long story short, they advised me this wasn’t a battle I could win so I was reduced to fortnightly visits.

However, after an argument I’ve now been told I will now have no contact at all and I’m going to have to seek legal advice, not for the first time. She also told our child last night that I said I didn’t want to see her anymore, I’m beyond disgusted and hurt.

My main worry is last time I went to a solicitor, the advice they gave me really didn’t help and I ended up failing miserably, the mother has been punishing me ever since. Is there any way of getting through to her, is there anywhere I can turn that can help me? Citizens advice couldn’t help, I don’t know whether to scale a building dressed as Spider-Man or just beg and plead.

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guest477337 · 18/11/2017 22:20

I'm sorry your going through this and don't have much advice as I've never been through this.

All I'd say is save all communication and proof of solicitors letter/appointments. For web your daughter is older you can show her this to prove you did all you can. I really hope you manage to sort it

dantdmistedious · 18/11/2017 22:23

I don’t have any experience but you need to get legal advice to get it sorted.

laura6032 · 21/11/2017 14:25

Get a specialist solicitor, sounds like your Ex is using access to your child as a punishment, it's so unfair, as pp said, keep all letters, texts and so on. Def speak to a couple solicitors and even apply for full access to your child, good luck x

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mustbemad17 · 21/11/2017 14:27

Sounds like you would be able to use the new Parental Alienation ruling to your advantage. She has no genuine reason for stopping you. Oh & get a better solicitor, yours sounds crap!

Tetley59 · 21/11/2017 20:16

Thanks guys appreciate it. Wasn’t aware of any new rules in place so will be looking into that further from now

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Hellomaryimback · 21/11/2017 20:18

Go and see a new solicitor

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