Mum Guilt

[Peppaismysaviour]

Anyone want to share why they have felt that all consuming sense of guilt or dread at what a terrible mother they are recently?

Currently I'm obsessing over what a terrible job I am doing being a SAHM

What do you mean by terrible job? I’m sure you’re not!

Well I accidentally got locked out my flat this morning with no phone or keys... and my 5 week old inside alone crying. Thankfully she was in a safe place and all was fine, but took a good 30 minutes for estate agent to get there with spare key. That had me feeling like the worst and least competent mum in the world for the rest of the day and probably for weeks to come!

Honestly I know I'm not doing a terrible job but I just expect too much of what I can do with a two year old who won't leave my side and two giddy dogs!

Glad your LO was safe and everything was ok, crazy how we beat ourselves up over nothing or a simple accident

I’m currently feeling guilty for going to university 2 days a week and leaving my 14month old DD with a childminder. Although I know it’s good for her to have some time away from me and I am doing it to improve our future. It’s still hard!

FT WOHM here, so mum guilt is a daily thing!

The very worst though...DS1 (5yo) was hugely constipated and on increasing doses of Movicol for a week, and we had to keep him home from the deathly expensive holiday club we had him booked into, so we could go to work, but we still ended up having to juggle annual leave to look after him (with no refund on the fees). He finally got unblocked, and we sent him in the next day, but I had a premonition it was a bad idea. When I arrived to pick him up, he’d pooed himself, and was sobbing in the toilets. To make matters worse, the bloody toilets had automatic sensor lights, which had left him in the dark (he’s terrified of the dark) so he was trying to make light by pounding his flashing shoes on the floor while wiping himself up by dipping toilet paper in the toilet water.

Literally, it still makes me cry now I sobbed down the phone to my in-laws that night and they looked after him for the rest of the holidays, but I should never have sent him in.

Oh elphaba your poor DS. But if you had known of course you wouldn’t have sent him, it’s not your fault I hope he’s ok now! Lots of cuddles x