10 month old really resists eating but only seems to be with me??

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My son goes to nursery two days a week. On those days when we collect him the staff always say how well he's eaten and on his feedback sheet it tells me he has had three meals plus snacks.

This is the total opposite to what He's like at home and it's making me miserable.

He will happily eat his breakfast which is usually porridge and fruit or toast.

Lunch is hit and miss. He tends to gobble up the finger food up to a point but doesn't take very much. If I try and feed him anything else he really resists and turns away. This is with the same sort of food nursery give him. So things like pasta, casseroles etc.

His tea goes even worse then his lunch. Tonight for example I offered up some Paella and he had one mouthful before having a complete meltdown. So next I tried him with a pouch of cottage pie and the same thing happened.

This is every night and I'm getting really worried about what I'm doing wrong. I don't want him to lose any weight and I don't want him growing up being a fussy eater.

Has anyone else been through this?

No advice as such. But i worked in a nirsery and alot of parents would say the same... He never eats that at home, he doesnt eat that much etc... Pretty normal as all his friends are sitting down eating the same things

Can you maybe get a copy of the nursery menus on the days he does. Maybe the food at nursery is blander? No sauce ?
Equally, it could be nothing to do with that and his being a monkey

My Ds did this too. I even tried to copy the food he ate at nursery. Speaking to other mums there they said the same how their kids ate well at nursery but terrible eaters at home. Its because at nursery they eat together and its like a
fun activity. I wouldn't worry. Just keep offering him his lunch and dinner as usual

What is his weight OP and percentile and height percentile?

Thanks foe your replies. I knoe what you mean about it beinga fun activity. Im just so shocked at the differnence. I hate mealtimes and actually long for the days where it was all milk.

He is 21lbs and on the 25th percentile.

Thanks for your replies. I know what you mean about it being a fun activity. Im just so shocked at the difference. I hate mealtimes and actually long for the days where it was all milk.

He is 21lbs and on the 25th percentile.

I really wouldn't get worried about it. I totally understand it's hard work and meal times are stressful. I use to dread meal times too. Just keep at it and he'll start to eat when he's ready.

Does he still drink plenty of milk? I’d be inclined to not make too much fuss, and don’t start offering multiple meals at one sitting. Just offer some of what you are having plus a couple of finger foods. And just clear it away/save it for later if he doesn’t eat it. He can still get most of his calories from milk at that age. They always are little angels at nursery and monkeys at home!

If he prefers finger foods then maybe go with that? And if your worried about portion it's the size of their hands so it's not a lot

This isn't uncommon. My DD was still not eating more than a couple of rice cakes at 15 months with me.
Are you breastfeeding? If so they probably just want your milk.
The best advice I was given was that babies are clever they won't starve themselves.
Ultimately to be full up on milk is enough for them at 10 months still, and it has good nutrients compared with some foods like bread, pasta etc which are filling but not highly nourishing.
Read the book Help My Child Won't Eat. It's brilliant.

He may be picking up on your anxiety - have you tried making it fun (without it being about whether or not he eats anything)? The more you make it a feel good event, the eating will come naturally. Also you should be eating too - you eat, talk, have fun, and completely ignore whether or not he is eating. Also make it a little bit later to make sure he is hungry.

Mine was a terrible eater at that age, he refused all food. We were told to drop his milk intake.
You said he likes finger foods, have you tried to load food on a spoon and let him try, alternatively just keep with finger foods for him.
Have you considered he doesn’t like his high chair/the kitchen. Try sitting him on your knees and spoon feeding/fingers foods that way, or sitting with him in a different room.
If you breastfeed they can often smell your milk, so he might just be able to smell you IYSWIM.
My son is now 15 months and eat likes a bloody horse

It's peer pressure. All the other kids are eating so he follows along.