Has anyone regretted their DP having a vasectomy?

[PregnantGrrrl]

I know that once this baby is born, i don't want another pregnancy. (Maybe adoption or fostering in a few years times, but no more pregnancies or newborns!)

Has anyone regretted choosing vasectomy? (I have one DS already, as well as baby on the way)

yes and no.

yes because i am so broody i would love another child (but then probably another, and another and another....)

no because .... see above!!!!!

If you know you don't want another pregnancy, get your tubes tied.

If he knows he never, ever wants to father any more children in his life, then he may consider vasectomy.

I'll be interested to see the results of this as I've been hinting to dh for about 9 years that he should have one!

I've just had Endometrial Ablation, which means that I won't have any more periods, but there is a remote chance that I could still conceive. If I did it would be extremely dangerous and I'd have to have a termination. BUT... how would I know I was pregnant without a period to miss?

So I think that it's about time dh went for the snip.

expat- forgive me if i'm wrong, but isn't it a more serious procedure for a woman than for a man? And DP doesn't want anymore anyway- but then originally he wanted none, then one, then two...

expat - statistically, tubal ligation is less reliable than vasectomy. It would be very unusual to conceive, but not impossible.

Also - it's done under general anaesthetic, whereas most vasectomies can be done under local.

Yes, it is a more invasive procedure in a woman, but sterilisation should always be considered permanent.

Therefore, the person undergoing the procedure, male or female should be of the mind that he/she never wants to procreate again; not because his/her partner doesn't want any more kids.

The 'esure' tubal ligation procedure can be performed under local anaesthetic.

doesn't help that i'm phobic about surgery either.

i think if i insisted i wanted another child, DP would relent, but he doesn't want any more after this one. We've decided 2 is enough, with a view to perhaps adopting or fostering a few years down the line.

oh god- just read how it's done. [vomiting emoticon] i can't do that. and the failure rate is 1-200, with it being more likely for a younger woman. (at 25, i assume i'm still a younger woman!)

I was sterilized after my last c-section. I had mixed feelings about it being done....i kinda did..but it is so final....i have 8 children and it is enough as far as money etc goes...but i just lovvvveeee being pregnant and having a newborn in the house.........put it this way....i would absolutely love my sterilization to fail....and get pregnant and it wouldn't be my fault!!!!!

Its a hard one, i'd say wait a bit after giving birth and if you are still feeling the same then he should have the vasectomy.

How whats done the sterilization??? where did you see that, i want to know!!! when you have it done with a c-sec it makes no difference as you are all open anyway...and is that the failure rate for steril???

gosh......please me, but i had it done 2.6 years ago so i think if it was gonna fail it would have been earlier on wouldn't it???

found it on netdoctor. i'm afraid of ever having a C-Section aswell...the only thing that would get me through it would be knowing it was essential to save the baby. and they'd have to to totally knock me out aswell.

The effectiveness of the Mirena coil is apparently greater than that of female sterilisation.

At the women's clinic where I worked, the Depo jab was also only given to women who'd completed their families, as it's very, very effective.

If your spouse or partner is under the age of 30, and has only fathered two children, be warned that he may meet a good deal of resistance when he tries to get a vasectomy.

And most doctors and practitioners will advise a patient to wait at least a year after having a baby - women who chose to undergo sterilisation during elective csection accepted - as it tends to a hormonal, chaotic time.

Well, Dh had his vasectomy after no.3 arrived. We both talked about it, and he felt i had been though enough as did i . He felt it was time he took some responsibility for our contraception, and was happy to do it. BUT i have to admit part of me would love another!! Vasectomy has a better success rate than sterilization, and my OB advised that if you get sterilized at same time as c sec there is a higher failure rate, as the body is in healing overdrive after giving birth.

he's almost 37, and i'm 25. i think i'm more likely to have opposition from a doctor than he is TBH

Yes thats true of here too...i asked to be sterilized after my first set of twins at the age of...27ish..they said no as i was too young..even though i had 6 kids at that time....i was overjoyed to get pregnant again with twins 3 years later....and they said yes to the sterilization straight away...lol
but as a rule they wont do sterilizations whilst doing c-secs anymore incase anything was to happen to the baby and becasuse they think preganant women get so wound up with uncomfortableness with pregnancy that they think they cannot be a rational decision..or somit like that.

c-sections aren't as bad as you think, i was dreading mine-and had no choice about having one.....i was suprised by it, i thought it was gonna be bad and painful but it wasn't-just more risky, but lucklily nothing untoward happened!

Had 2 csecs, first was great, better than my natural delivery due to 3rd degree tear. i was sitting up in bed chatting and feeding within hours. 2nd one was tougher.

i'm just phobic about any surgery really- i live in fear of a C-Section. If my appendix burst they'd probably have to pin me down and sedate me. i am terrified of the incision / rummaging.

hmmm..you are actually making my c-section area feel funny with the word 'rummaging'...lol

Ick!