Hello everyone. I am sorry if this has been posted in the wrong subforum and if so I would be happy if it is moved to the correct section by the mods
I have been married to my wife for 7 months and I have 2 children aged 9 and 7 from a previous marriage and my wife has no children. My wife obviously knew about this before we married.
My brother in law( wifes brother) is getting married in the summer and my wife has told me that her family have not told anyone in their community that their son in law has any children( Due to the stigma ). I should point out that we are both muslim families. She has therfore requested that for the upcoming wedding if I would be able to do the following:
- Ensure my kids sit with their grandmother and do not sit with me at the head table.
- Ensure the children have photos taken with grandparents and not with their father.
- Ask the children to avoid calling me papa or holding my hands at the event.
Obviously these requests are to avoid people realising I have children which may embarress their family.
The husband thinks its an inappropriate request. The wife thinks its an appropriate request.
Please can you give your impartial advice on this matter.
Thanks