Just that really.
Had a baby in the summer after a very difficult pregnancy with lots of scares ended up having a C section. Literally within 2 hours of baby being delivered my mum, dad, grandma, sister and nephew all showed up at the hospital. My DH had to leave the room as there was not enough room for everyone. I had told my mum that she and my dad could come past to see me and that was it but to my surprise everyone showed up with balloons, presents etc which was obviously lovely of them to bring gifts but I was still in my hospital gown attached to catheter and couldn't even move. I was still struggling trying to breastfeed as a new and first time mum.
My husband took the two weeks off work and then my mum had always planned to take a few weeks off following his two weeks to help me out (I had a planned c section due to complicated pregnancy). I feel like a struggled at the beginning to bond with DD as I could hardly move due to CS and I was also very emotional for a few weeks (no one tells you before hand to expect the tears lol). My sister had my mum look after her son for 3 weeks of the summer holidays and of course that fell on the weeks my mum was to be helping me. I just really feel like since my sis knew I was needing the extra help from my mum (lifting, driving etc) she wouldn't have dumped her son in my house for all this time basically ending in me having to entertain him in my house. It feels like when she found out my mum took those weeks off to help me she thought oh Well she's off anyway so she can look after him too. No one asked me if I was ok to essentially be responsible for another persons child for 3 weeks when I'm trying to get to grips with being a new first time mum as well. I also have a dog who is very boisterous when wound up which my nephew does so I always feel like I'm on eggshells having to watch out for the dog too.
Bearing in mind that when my sis gave birth she had EMCS and I took a week off work to help her round the house.
Then there is Xmas coming up, (and I know I'm about to sound pathetic when I say this) but usually we all went to my parents for Xmas day every year but the year my sister had her son she asked if we could all go to her house since she had a small baby it would be easier for them. Obviously we all went to her house as would want to make it easier for them with the new baby. Last year we all decided to go out for a change and stay over at a hotel. I was pregnant last year and said I didn't want to do it the next year again with the new baby as would have to go up to the room early whole everyone else stayed in bar and would prefer to have it at our house where we could feel comfortable with baby being in bed and we could set
Up the monitor and stay downstairs and socialise with everyone. Well my whole family decided to go go out and stay at hotel again. So me DH and new baby staying home on our own and I really thought thy would have wanted to spend her first Xmas with her so i think my feelings are just a bit hurt here.
Sorry just wanted a rant about it and I am totally prepared for people to tell me I'm being childish and selfish!