Hi, firstly am sorry to hear of what you went through in your first pregnancy, I can understand how that might put you off wanting to go through it all again. However I?m not sure whether surrogacy would really be the way to go, or whether you would even be successful in finding a surrogate who would be prepared to carry a baby for you under those circumstances.
Surrogates are women who selflessly want to have a baby for a woman who is unable to have a baby, and while you obviously have reasons for not wanting to be pregnant again, you?re not physically incapable of having another baby, and I think that it would be hard to find someone that would choose to have a baby for someone who didn?t want to go through pregnancy, over someone who, without their help, might never experience the joy of parenthood.
Also if you were looking for a host surrogate, i.e. someone who would carry your biological baby, you would still have to go through the process of treatment to retrieve your eggs so they could be implanted into the surrogate, and this procedure is invasive and the drug treatments to stimulate your ovaries are not without risk. Also IVF is expensive, upwards of £3000 a time and there are no guarantees that it will even work. It really isn?t as simple as finding someone else to have a baby for you because you don?t want to do it yourself.
Every pregnancy is different, and it?s unlikely you would have to go through the same experience as you did last time. Having had a section before you could elect to have one again so as to avoid the necessity for an emergency section, and this would take away a lot of the stress as you would be given a date/time for your procedure and it would be planned so no botched drugs/drawn out labour etc.
If you want another baby, are physically able to have another baby, then there are ways to go about doing that that will minimize the impact of another pregnancy on your life. If your fear of pregnancy/birth is really so great that you don?t feel you could go through it again, then you need to sit down and talk about whether you should perhaps just be content with having an only child, or whether you could maybe explore the possibility of adoption.