Dummy withdrawn now in toddler HELL!!!

[Chuf]

We withdrew my 3 year old son's dummy recently, he just used to use it at night. It went OK at first, but then he started getting up earlier and earlier and more in the night. Coming up to bedtime he is so tired he is all over the place screaming at us etc. During the day can be pretty bad too. Before removing the dummy he has been having more tantrums and now with the lack of sleep on top his mood has been so irritable. He won't nap in the day anymore, and is resisting bedtime more and more. I have contemplated giving him the dummy back and trying again in a few months, but my partner thinks I am crazy, I feel awful putting my son through this twice, and the dentist says his teeth are starting to be pushed out. Any advice would be great. Is this a phase and should we push on? It's not helped by the fact that it's not that long since he dropped his nap and this new sense of determination he has. He is fighting us all the time and we are giving in as we feel it's mostly tiredness related and being firm doesn't seem to help. Bit of a mess! Thanks in advance xx

Hey Chuf, on the off chance you get notifications for this thread, can I ask if you remember how long the night time disruption/tantrums/nightmares lasted? I’m going through this exact thing now. Santa took the dummy on Xmas morning and she’s really quick to tantrum generally now, but mainly its awakenings a couple of times a night that are her just screaming at me ‘I’m upset’ but nothing I offer her consoles her. Thanks!

Hi. I know this was ages ago. But Im experiencing literally exactly the same as you described. Did it get better? 🙏🏻

Hi, if there’s a chance you’re still reading this thread please let me know how you went with this all - been almost 6 weeks and my little one is still unable to settle himself to sleep, waking early, very irritable, screaming etc. same as all the above but thought there might be a better chance of you responding as the rest of the thread was from years ago. Thanks!

Hi, if there’s a chance you’re still reading this thread please let me know how you went with this all - been almost 6 weeks and my little one is still unable to settle himself to sleep, waking early, very irritable, screaming etc. same as all the above but thought there might be a better chance of you responding as the rest of the thread was from years ago. Thanks!

@Barbara25
How are things going for you. I also found this thread late night googling what I can do to make this better for my daughter.
Good to know I’m not alone but totally stuck on what to do next!
I took my daughters dummy at Christmas there, she’s 2.5 and finding all the same issues you are.
Gone from a napper and excellent overnight sleeper til 8.30am the next day, really easily pleased and mild mannered, to over tired, refusing to nap/sleep, being difficult and having tantrums over things like getting dressed when she never did before. Her sleep is awful, crying going to bed, several wake ups then awake at the crack of dawn.
I know it can be a developmental stage but I feel it’s directly linked to the removal of the dummy. She had a comforter she wouldn’t sleep without and now she doesn’t even want it near her.
she has a projector light which can help at times and white noise but I’m totally stumped at where I’m going wrong.
we had such a great routine going and now 8pm - 7am is chaos !
let me know if you find anything that helps.

God honestly at 2.5 I'd just give the damn thing back and remove it at 3.5.

I would not be willing to spoil a perfect routine to prove a point

This thread seems to be staying alive and I felt heartened reading some of these posts as it made me feel less alone in our current situation! 🥲

Our daughter is 3 next month and about 3 weeks ago we got her to give up her dummy. She was biting through them and in the last few days of having them, she’d bite a hole in them every other day, meaning we were going through them rapidly and costing us a fortune! That’s when we knew they had to go. Anyway, after cold turkey and one night of screaming for it for hours, we feel we cracked it.

Since then however, our daughter has been having the most extreme tantrums. She’s always been a fairly angry child and historically has lashed out at us (and tries to hurt herself by throwing herself around). I’m wondering if the dummy going has increased her anger levels, as we’d usually let her have it when she was upset, as well as sleep times. She doesn’t struggle to get to sleep at night, nap times now are hit and miss (even though most of the time she desperately needs a nap).

I’m really keen to hear if / when things get better - she is a very angry little girl right now and I just wonder if the increased anger is related to missing her dummy. Or if anyone else has experience of a very angry almost-three year old who doesn’t respond to rewards, consequences, or anything really.