DS just started reception year. He seems happy most of the time but would not want to say much about his day in the school to us. He’s a very active boy, funny and lively, but probably less socially mature and not aware if some kids are mean or to be stayed away from.
So there’s this other boy in his class who’s already got a small reputation for misbehaving. He had kicked the other little boy quite badly earlier on last term. I was told by DS’s best friend’s mum that the same boy has said very mean things to DS. But when questioned, DS seems almost defending that boy denying it. But this morning, DS told DH that the same boy “got angry” at him yesterday and he told the teacher and “it happened before” and “he has had told the teacher last time too”. But he would not want to reveal what exactly happened. That reminded me two days ago, he casually told me that boy had led a group of other boys chasing him, but he made it down to “they were just playing” and he “had fun”. I wonder if that chase was truly playful or actually threatening.
The worry is also compounded with his behaviour during half term. As he stayed with the childminder during the holiday all week, he had hit/hurt the other little 3 years old boy (they used to be good buddies) two days in a row. The childminder thought that’s really out of his character.
DH asks me to talk with the teacher. I know I should. But honestly, things like this makes me nervous, as I don’t know which approach I shall take, how much I shall say and what the end goal I shall set… Don’t want to make it a big deal, but truly worries us that DS just can’t handle it with his maturity. Plus in school these days, the teachers tend to dismiss any non-major complaints as they don’t have the resource/just care very little?
Advice please!