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Need a 2nd opinion...am i being silly?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 09:53

I've been back in work about 5wks. On a Thursday DS goes to nursery, and he's been consistently unwell every weekend since then.

i know he has to be ill sometimes, as much as i dislike it, but aswell as a couple of mild colds, he's had 3 stomach bugs in 5wks. i'm convinced nursery is making him ill- this morning he has D & V again.

DP thinks i'm being silly, but i think the there's something wrong here.

what do you think? Is it an unlucky coincidence, or am i possibly right?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:05

i should add it's not that DP doesn't care- he just thinks it's a coincidence, but i think the nursery is making him ill.

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Trinityrhino · 14/04/2007 10:06

how old is your ds?

is he an only child?

is this the first time he has been in a nursery/playschool type place?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:10

almost 10mths. he is an only child at the moment. nowhere else he can go- our childminder has him Mon-Tue but can't take him on a Thursday. her other kids are all well and there only a few of them.

i thought i might ring the nursery about it- but i might just sound over protective and mental

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Twinmummyx2 · 14/04/2007 10:11

Do they give him any meals/snacks..maybe he is eating something new that dosen't agree with him???

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lulumama · 14/04/2007 10:13

stomach bugs can be hard to shake, might be he has the same one lingering

when DS started nursery he had a cold from when he started until he was 3 !! D&V needs looking into if it is recurrent..how long does he have each bout ? a day or two? or longer?

a discreet word with other parents maybe, to see if they have noticed it?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:14

i pack his lunch and milk. other than that, he sometimes has snacks like a rice cake or some cheese- both of which he has at home without a problem.

the place looks clean, so it's a bit of a mystery. odd it's always a Saturday he's ill though, as though he's incubated the germs from the Thursday.

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Trinityrhino · 14/04/2007 10:15

my q's were to see if maybe this is the first time he has been exposed to a whole rush of lots of different germs right in his face (lets face it, thats what nursey would be to him)

lots of kids bringing to him all their colds, coughs, bugs and all there siblings ones aswell.

hope he feels better soon

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:16

lulamama- it's a day or two with the D and V. Was so bad one weekend we had to take him to out of hours doctor at hospital. it's always a weekend that the symptoms show though.

i told DP i might ask work if i can work Saturdays instead of Thursdays so i can take him out of nursery, but DP thought i was being stupid.

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DimpledThighs · 14/04/2007 10:19

that sounds worrying but I think that this time of year in some areas of the cpountry are quite bad for stomach bugs etc - are other children you know who are not at the nursery ill?

It could just be he is building up his immunity.

Sorry not much help but I wanted to say I can se why you are worried but it will probably be okay.

lulumama · 14/04/2007 10:19

maybe it is a reaction to something, maybe they always have the same meal on a friday, and he gets poorly over the weekend?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:20

me too. DP said 'but then i've got him on my own on a Saturday'...er, yeah i said, like when i am home on my own with him on a Friday you mean?

i think he realised what a load of crap he was talking as soon as he said it!

i don't want to work on a weekend, but then watching DS poo and puke every week is hardly quality time is it?

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PregnantGrrrl · 14/04/2007 10:28

dimpledthighs- i don't know. we never see any other parents as he goes once a week and he's one the 1st kids there. i thought i may ring and ask the nursery if any other kids have been sick / kept off as they're sick.

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DimpledThighs · 14/04/2007 11:04

I don't kno how forthcoming the nursery will be - is there any way you can hang around one time and accost another parent (but then I guess if thier children are ill they won't be there.....)

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fluffyanimal · 14/04/2007 13:48

Sounds like par for the course for being at nursery. They can tend just to get everything going, no matter how clean the nursery is. This has happened to my ds too. I'd be surprised if the nursery was in some way negligent about hygiene, but it almost certainly is down to him mixing with lots of kids and bugs there. I know it's frustrating, but you just have to decide whether to bear with it or not use a nursery.

skidaddle · 17/04/2007 14:34

Hi, my dd is also always ill since startig nursey - could it not just be a combination of a developing immune system and being in contact with lots of other babies/toddlers?

This is certainly the explanation I have come up with and am hoping that when she starts school she will be fine while children who have been at home will get ill all the time. I think it's just a matter of when

CoteDAzur · 17/04/2007 18:44

Although we call it "stomach flu", gastroenteritis does NOT pass between children through simple contact, nor by being in the same room. It has to be ingested - the person changing the nappy of the sick kid does not wash her hands before touching the kids' toys or their food. Kids touch those and put their hands to their mouths.

There is a mother and baby group meeting in a church near our house. Pretty much every time we go there DD gets the stomach flu. Then I started taking her there but did not let her near the cookie jar (shared by all kids and biscuits look the same batch every time) and she has been fine.

I'd tell the nursery management about it and tell them to clean up. If you know any other mums, it would be an idea to ask them if their kids get the bug on a regular basis as well.

lovemybed · 17/04/2007 19:28

cote if its a mother and toddler group are you not all a bit responsible for health and hygeine issues, if you think you have good reason to be worried about the cookie jar why dont you throw the cookies out and give the jar a good clean??? it may just stop another child from becoming very ill!!!! all the parents would only have to chip in pennies each to fill it up with fresh biscuits.

CoteDAzur · 17/04/2007 20:04

Sorry if I didn't explain better (didn't think I had to) but in this case, it is a lady with the church who organizes the whole thing. Every attending mother pays EUR 2 each time (we are in France) and the lady in question buys the toys, cookies, etc.

I thought about telling her to throw away the biscuits and cleaning the toys but I have been told by people who know her better that she would have taken it very personally and, call me a coward if you like, but I chose not to be confrontation on that point. I wouldn't have minded to supply biscuits just by myself indefinitely, and clean the toys myself if I had to.

So I just take care of my child by not letting her eat from the cookie jar. And I clean her hands with antibacterial wipes as soon as we leave. It seems to be working. So there you go.

lovemybed · 17/04/2007 20:11

even when you explain it in more detail it still makes no sense to me, young children are eating food out of a jar that you believe to be making your daughter ill, but you wont tell the lady in charge incase she takes it as a personal insult. my opinion would be sod her feelings the health of the children comes first.

pansypants · 17/04/2007 20:35

love my bed,, perhaps in cotes case no other child has been ill, if she came to the conclusion of the cookie jar making her child unwell other mums would too,

CoteDAzur · 18/04/2007 08:47

How about you choose your combats and I choose mine? Thanks.

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