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Dirty protest nightmare.

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Belleende · 31/10/2017 06:00

I have a 2.4 year old. She is an early riser, usually between 5 to 5.30, now even earlier with the clock change. When she wakes I go in, give her a drink and change her nappy and then I go back to bed. She has taken to then having a poo, taking her nappy off and it ends up all over her and the bedroom. It is vile. We have been delaying potty training as I am about to have dd2 and the advice seems to be to wait. Is there anything I can do to stop this that doesn't involve getting up at 5am?

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Fishfacemcgee · 31/10/2017 11:11

Your daughter might be having difficult feelings about the new baby that she doesn’t know how to express, and this new behaviour probably means she gets a lot of attention (this isn’t a conscious process). Lots of kids start doing baby things when a new baby is coming. Ideally you want to ignore the negative behaviour as much as possible (clean up but don’t interact), but provide lots of positive attention for wanted behaviour. You could try teaching her to come and tell you if she’s done a poo then give a sticker for that to reward her and make a big fuss of praising her. This will involve being up early but as she gets used to it you may be able to push it back. Lots of praise and attention through the rest of the day. How much does she understand about the new baby coming? Have you talked to her about her role as a big sister? X

Fishfacemcgee · 31/10/2017 11:17

It sounds like a really tough (and gross) situation, especially when pregnant. Good luck with getting through it x

cokeyhokey · 31/10/2017 12:42

Im a bit confused, what do you expect her to do when you go back to bed? I mean obviously not poo everywhere , but are you expecting her to play by herself or go back to sleep?

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Bringmewineandcake · 31/10/2017 12:46

All in one pyjamas/babygro so she can’t get the nappy off would be a good start.

MyKingdomForBrie · 31/10/2017 12:48

Definitely popper her up in something she can’t get into!

welshweasel · 31/10/2017 12:51

Why are you putting her back to bed? Surely just get up and take her downstairs to play whilst you lie on the sofa with coffee. Or bring her into your bed and let her watch something on tv. She's probably protesting at being left on her own when she wants to get up and get on with the day!

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Belleende · 31/10/2017 12:55

She normally does play in her room quite happily for 30 to 40 minutes before she starts asking to come out as long as she had a drink and a nappy change (have been known to stick the lap top in there with Mr tumble on repeat).

She does like to get naked at every opportunity which I think is part of it. It was particularly gross this morning and she did seem to like the attention. I will give the sticker thing a go.

She hasn't really engaged with the whole baby thing. She does now give the bump a cuddle and points at me every now and then and says mummy bigger but that's about it. I have been reading her the books and yesterday showed her some videos of her as a new born. Nothing more than vague interest.

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chloechloe · 31/10/2017 13:28

If you're leaving her on her own for up to 40 min while you go back to bed, you can't really complain when she does something you don't like.

Early mornings are par for the course with young kids. I know it's hard when you're exhausted but you either need to go to bed half an hour earlier or take it in turns with your OH to get up.

Rainatnight · 31/10/2017 13:33

Yeah, I think she's telling you she can't do the going back to bed on her own thing any more.

I know it's hard. My DD will happily chat to herself in the cot for quite a while after waking up if she hasn't heard us, and it's so nice to lie in bed listening to her! But I know it won't last forever and we'll be up and downstairs watching Peppa reading books.

cokeyhokey · 31/10/2017 14:05

Yeah I think you need to start getting up with her, can’t you bring her into your bed to watch mr tumble while you doze? it’s not really nice for her to sit around in a dirty nappy anyway, maybe that’s why she’s taking it off!

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Belleende · 31/10/2017 16:23

To be clear I go in, change her, then she does a big poo and wreaks havoc. Snoozing with us doesn't work, all she wants to do is open drawers and jump on the bed. And have you seen mister tumble? Rip Van winkle couldn't doze through that.

I don't think I can get up at 4.30am and still function. Maybe I can just live with the nursery being a cess pit? A bit of air freshener and open the window first thing? That'll do surely? Or a really fiendish baby gro thing that she can't actually get off.

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FangsAlot · 31/10/2017 16:27

Put her in a onsie put on back to front with the zipper at the back so she can't take it off.

HipToBeSquare · 31/10/2017 16:27

Are you fucking serious

Get up and parent ffs. And you're having another one??

CurlsLDN · 31/10/2017 16:28

But regardless of if you’ve just changed her, if her bodily routine means she does a poo at that time, it’s not good for you to leave her with a pooey nappy for 30-40 mins.

Smallpotatolove · 31/10/2017 16:31

Just get up with her, she obviously doesn't want to be left on her own anymore in the morning. Can you not get up for an hour or so and then swap with your partner and get another hour before you have to be up for the day? That's what we do.
She's too young to be left unsupervised for that long imo.

Mrsyorkie · 31/10/2017 16:33

Does she scream until you go in when she wakes up around 5? Could you stretch it out and go in half an hour later and deal with poo-gate all at once. Ignore the unhelpful comments. Even Mary Poppins wouldn't want to start her day before 5am but some of us (me included) have to x

Afreshstartplease · 31/10/2017 16:35

Sorry op but you need to accept you have an early riser.

Fruitcocktail6 · 31/10/2017 16:35

So if she didn't take the nappy off, she'd be sitting in her poo for 40 mins?

Theresnonamesleft · 31/10/2017 16:40

Maybe instead of whacking a nappy on her put her on the potty. Stay with her until she’s done a poo.

Ttbb · 31/10/2017 16:42

Does she only do this in the mornings or does she always do it when she does a poo? Maybe she just doesn't like the way it feels?

outedmyselfagain · 31/10/2017 16:52

Popper cloth nappy wrap would be my recommendation.

Itsjustaphase84 · 31/10/2017 16:56

Quiet play in bedroom with her until a suitable breakfast time. Books, jigsaw, stacking ups etc. She's probably bored.

Can you then rest in afternoon? Or when she naps?

lornathewizzard · 31/10/2017 17:04

FYI Tesco to vests with poppers up to size 2-3

ducktale · 31/10/2017 17:21

Put her in a onsie put on back to front with the zipper at the back so she can't take it off.

Why are so many people suggesting this?! It’s fucking gross!

chloechloe · 31/10/2017 17:29

I can't believe people are actually coming up with suggestions other than doing the right thing and getting up with her and changing her nappy as soon as she soils it.

She'll adjust to the time change in a few days, pretty much most parents will be up at the crack of dawn this week, myself included.

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