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"awkward" behaviour in 8 year old

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dokey · 14/04/2007 00:54

I'm worried about my son, I always have been really. As soon as he learn to walk it was a very awkward walk, more of a trot which was cute at the time but he never grew out it, even now he trots along with his arms up and wrists bent over giving the school bullies a field day with "gay" torments.

He's very "awkward" in his social skills too, for instance he won't just go upto someone and start talking to them, he will try and get their attention first by hovering around them, sighing loudly, making daft noises or in desperation will something go up and shout "hello you lot" invoking a reaction of sneering faces from the group he's just interupted.

He has no interests other than computer games and music (is this normal at his age?) has never played with toys, cars or anything like that, he obsesses over rock bands such as bowling for soup and green day and has an obsession with Jack Black...half of his stuff he shouldnt be listening to but it makes him happy which is rare so I let him.

He's constantly bored, cant just sit and play, if I leave him alone with his younger brother he torments him, has him running around the living room and diving off furniture, its like he has tons of energy he wants to use up but when I take him to the park with a football all I get is "cant be bothered", "im too tired" etc...he just cannot be pleased.

Maybe the "bored" and "music is everything" attitudes are just down to his age but the other stuff? the social and physical 'awkwardness'...could it be something more 'sinister' than just being a bit different?

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kimi · 14/04/2007 01:08

Dokey, have you spoken to the school?
If not make an appointment to speak to the head and the senco if possible.

I have two wonderful DSs and DS1 has a few problems with inter acting with his peers.
I don't think sinister is the right word, but there may be some issues.
DS1 has a very very high IQ but the social skills of a dead mackerel (he has tourettes and mild aspergers has not been ruled out.

I think you need to speak to the school and see what their take on it is, but every child is an indervidule and no two children are the same.
Please don't worry too much.
Kimi xx

dokey · 14/04/2007 01:22

Thanks for the reply, he's the same, his maths is that of a 10 year old, he gets different work from everyone else in the class when its maths as he see's the normal stuff as nothing more than 'doodling on paper'. I sometimes play a game with him asking him to do sums as we're walking down the street...12+12? 24+24? 116+116? he loves it...stuff like that keeps him happy...trying to have a kick around in the park with him just "bores" him...

He also tries to talk posh, when most kids say "yeah" he will say "yes", when they say "dunno.." he will say "I have no clue...", we're certainly not a posh family so I dont know where he has picked this up from but its something else that makes him stand out at school.

Sometimes he seems glad that he gets bullied, the way he see's it is "all the big rock/punk stars got bullied so if I'm being bullied I'm gonna be a star!", its like he's setting his whole future out on this one dream of being a rockstar, nothing else matters to him.

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kimi · 14/04/2007 01:36

At 4 DS1 was doing tests set for 8 year olds.
I really would speak to the school as soon as you can, I can only say from having DS1 that the school picked up on his stuff before Dh and I did (he was our first child and none of our friends had children so we thought a 4 year old that could read, write, do maths etc was the norm).

He gets on very well with older or younger children but put him with his peers and you might as well take a pork pie to a Jewish wedding.

He can programme any PC, but can't tie a shoe lace, He can tell you what (CiO2) is but can't cut up his food, He will happily discuss Darwin/Dawkins/God but can't explain why he is angry with his 6 year old brother.

He needs to be stimulated 24/7 or he is board.
I know everyone seems to want their child to meet "the norm" but who set the norm in the first place?

Please speak to the school and if they draw a blank try your GP and keep on till someone listernes.

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kimi · 14/04/2007 09:28

Dokey,how are you today?

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