10 year old

[WhoIsHolly]

What would your punishment be for a 10 year old boy who screamed like a wounded animal and threw a wooden doll and hard back book through a doorway. This was over not wanting to do homework.

My only child is just a baby so I have no experience of any child that is older and not sure if my punishment suggestions to my friend are too harsh.

What were your suggestions?

If it was just that I wouldn't punish him at all but let him calm down and then sit down and talk to him. However that sort of behaviour would be unusual for my 10 year old DS and probably a sign he was upset or worried about something.

If he has any form of electronics (phone/xbox etc) lose privileges for that day.

My 8 year old had a bit of a tantrum about homework on Sunday, he didn't throw anything but did stamp around and slammed a couple of doors. I sent him to his room for ten minutes to calm down, then we had a chat about it and he apologised.

Gosh, is this normal then?!

How do you live in houses were people just scream and throw hard objects when things don't go right? She has a three year old too so I was pretty upset for her. I was a pretty timid child and would never have dreamed of throwing anything in front of a parent but maybe I'm too naive.

Her punishment was a phone ban for one evening.

I think if it was me, I probably would have asked him to pay for the book he broke, longer ban on phone and probably rest of evening in room.

I think it depends on how out of character this is.
If one of mine did it, I'd assume something was seriously wrong.
If my friend's (very lovely) DCs did, I'd assume it was business as usual.
They're a very 'let it all hang out' family. We're much more repressed!

Depends on the child, the family and whatever else was going on with them at the time.

Did your friend ask for suggestions?

Sounds like a normal evening in our house!