So my dd turns 8 in a couple of weeks and we said that she can invite a friend bowling after school, go for pizza etc.
Initially she had wanted to invite friend A, and I had vaguely mentioned it to A's mum a few weeks ago who is a good friend of mine. However, since the start of term, A and dd have not been getting along well at all and last night dd was in tears saying that A and another girl never let her play their games at school/whisper to each other/leave her out etc etc. All normal - albeit hurtful - school stuff which ordinarily we can handle, except dd is now saying she would rather invite another friend over on her birthday instead of friend A. Which from her point of view i think is completely understandable.... but I don't know if it's unreasonable to now revoke the invite, given I had already vaguely suggested to A's mum when things were cordial between the girls? And if we now don't invite A, should I tell A's mum why?!!! If I don't it will look as if my dd is the one being awful! But I really don't want to fall out with her and i wasn't planning on telling her what dd had said about A because a) there's not a whole lot she can do and b) it's all a bit he-said, she-said - who knows how much is true and how much is dd being a sensitive drama queen.
But on the other hand, I don't feel that my dd should have to invite someone over on her birthday who is being unkind to her/who she isn't getting along with? I just can't figure out what the right thing to do is! Help!!