Once you become a mum

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I absolutely love being a mum don't get me wrong, I love my son and can't wait to have another some day BUT I'm so depressed at the way I look. After I had my son i didn't lose the weight like I thought I would, I eventually lost it just after he turned 1. And I've since gained a stone of it back (he's 3 now). I see other mums who have amazing figures and I'm like ugh why me. Before I had him I was in pretty good shape, nothing amazing but so much better than now. I had nice clothes, time to do my hair and make up haha. Now I look like a sack of shit 😂 or that's how I feel. Fat and frumpy. I really want another baby as we are now in the position to have but at the same time I feel like I'm only going to end up even fatter and worse looking haha haha. Anyone else feel like this? All my confidence in the way I look is totally gone and if anyone does say I look nice I laugh thinking it's through pity. Anyone got any tips on how to feel hot again? 😂

Yes! I feel exactly the same. My daughter is nearly 3 and I can't shift my tummy! I used to be a size 6 or 8 and am now 12 or 14! I've asked santa for a treadmill this year. Hoping to get the weight off soon. Makes you feel like shit doesn't it?

I know exactly what you mean!

Was a size 10 before DD, now she's 5 months and I'm a 14, which really depresses me. I do my makeup a few days a week but nothing like before. Hair is always a mess. But DD is totally worth it so when I feel like crap I just look at her

Snap I'm same DS is almost 6 months and whilst I was never a skinny person I wasn't fat or frumpy either I used to be a comfortable 12 now I'm lucky to get into size 14 I have a saggy flabby stomach and I too want another baby someday but have the fear of getting bigger if I had a second
I also thought I'd have all the energy and time to be able to go back to the gym to kick my fitness but that didn't happen either

Just give it time. It took me about 6 years to lose the baby weight entirely. Lots of walking was involved, some swimming, and then yoga to pull it all back into shape(ish - still have a kangaroo pouch belly but nevermind).

I never lost the weight from DD before getting pregnant again; immune lowest weight was 70kg (I'm 168cm) and that still had me in the "overweight" category.

BUT I did get my core and pelvic floor back quite quickly with a postnatal health check and also classes in the local park which I'll definitely do again after DC2 is here.

Want to run a 10k at the end of April so training for that ought to hopefully keep the pounds off... we shall see.

I only put baby weight on when I was pregnant and was back in my old jeans within 10 days. But this is no stealth boast as nearly 2 years later I've piled on about 2 stone. I feel and look absolutely disgusting. It's quite depressing. I really need to do something 😔

My tummy is slowly going.
4 bloody years later

I'm glad I'm not the only one 😂 we got married in June and within that time I've gained a stone! My body never went back to how it was but I also can't believe how fast I piled it on, only in 3 months! I'm so conflicted I want another baby but I know right after I'll have even MORE weight to lose and how will I do that with 2 kids?! 😂 my son starts nursery next month so I'm going to use that time to do something about it (I hope!)

It's not just weight.

I lost all my weight, and am a "slim" weight by anyone's standards, but a walking wobble, and frequently look like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards.

Having been on style and beauty I am attempting to wear lipstick, hide the bags, and buy only clothes that really suit me. Having just sent a load of clothes back I have concluded these need to be loose fitting clothes that suit me.

Dd is 3 months and I've lost the weight and am back to my pre pregnancy weight but still none of my clothes fit me like they did before! I can't get my jeans over my bum! My hips seem to have widened massively which is so depressing as I all ways had big hips before anyway! I also have a saggy belly which will not go away!

I never put make up on anymore despite being pretty gross looking and acne ridden (you'd think I was 16 again) and my hair is constantly unbrushed and a total mess.

I'm wondering if I will ever feel good about myself again?