15 year old ds wanting to sleep at gfs house

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My 15 year old son wants to stay over at his girlfriends house this weekend, sharing her room. They’ve been going out for 10 months and her mother is fine with this. I’m ok with him staying over but feel uneasy with the same room. I’ve already said that I’m not ok with them staying in his bedroom at our house until they are both 16 (because at least there are no legal issues then, even if I think it’s still too young to be having a sexual relationship). Any experiences of this? I’m going to speak to gf’s mum tomorrow but know that she’s a lot more liberal than us (fine with alcohol at 13 e.g.) . . . so just trying to get my thoughts in order and I’d appreciate anyone else’s experiences.

Going back to me at that age, I'd be inclined to say it's going to happen anyway, so at least you know they're safe and being honest with where they are.

Dd is still a baby though, so I can't imagine how it feels as a parent yet!

I slept over at a boyfriends from 17 but we had already had sex. I wouldn't restrict this tbh as it won't stop them if they want to. Maybe let them stay at yours instead?

If they're going to have a sexual relationship then they will whether you say they can sleepover in the same room or not. Have you spoken to your ds about their relationship? They may or may not be at that point yet and may just enjoy a kiss and cuddle. I'd chat with him and encourage him to be open with you,although you may feel like crying inside. With the alcohol I kind of get that, I'd much rather my dc drink in my company at that age than be swigging a bottle of vodka in secret on the park on a Saturday night.