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Feel like crying/screaming.. DS(5) a nightmare after school

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Sammy3519821982 · 27/09/2017 18:10

Ok so i work full time. Managed to get a new job with 2 work frm home days. I take late lunch. Collect ds son school and have to work til 5 (so i work/cook dinner).. we ate at 530 today.. i was sooo looking fwd to that time with him as usually i barely see him midweek.. but he was soo over tired.. misbehaved, barely ate.. moaned .. i was gutted... not quality time! i may as well have just been at work :-/ usually he goes to grandparents and they eat with him at 4pm..a proper eve meal. I cant that early as work.. so give him light snack n tv while i finish work... but 530 is too late to eat 4 him. I give up.. being a working mums so hard :-/

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picklemepopcorn · 27/09/2017 18:51

It feels horrid now, but it's early days. You need to find a routine that works for you both. If he had his tea snacking at a table in the lounge two days a week, so you could finish work then have quality time with him at bath and bed time that might work better.

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Sammy3519821982 · 27/09/2017 19:05

Yes i might have to do that. I really wanted us to eat together properly but i dont think it can work atm.

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Believeitornot · 27/09/2017 21:01

You need to revise your time for working with him around. It's not fair for him. My company doesn't even allow wah if you're caring for dependants within that time.

Can you use breakfast club and start work earlier when you're home?

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waterrat · 27/09/2017 22:02

Okay OP - take a breath - you are being very unfair on your son! He is exhausted (I also have a 5 year old so I see it every day in my own house!)

Please don't set your expectations for 'quality time' so high - just enjoy getting to have tea with him - it's still important for him that you collect him from school and spend time with him - my son loves it so much when it is me collecting him instead of the childminder. It really matters to them.

YOu can't expect him to be on your schedule - my 5 year old is basically fit for watching tv after school, early bath then we do lots of very chilled out playing in the bedroom/ stories/ quiet stuff.

I know how you feel - of course you want it to be 'precious time' - but precious time is just being there with them - it includes them being naughty and tired too.

Can't you eat earlier then work later after he is in bed?

Or just tuck him up in front of the telly and both of you watch tv/ eat your dinner on your lap as a treat?

Make it all much more low key and expect much much less ! my 5 yr old is a monster of exhaustion at the moment.

Maya12 · 28/09/2017 00:01

I thought the same all year last year, but it just means they've got yo hold it together longer every day. At least on my early pickup days he can have a whinge and moan and be the tired little boy he really is.

Definitely early food though - hungry and overtired is a recipe for disaster in this house

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