Party invite politics

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My little boy very excitedly handed his invites out for his 6th birthday party this morning. One mum got handed hers by her daughter and came over to me and said "thanks she'll be there, we couldn't invite your son to ours as * doesn't like him". I was a bit shocked and didn't say anything. Her daughters party is the weekend before my sons, I didn't know her invites were already out.

My boy thinks they're friends. Why would you accept an invite for someone your child doesn't like and isn't inviting to their party. I feel bad for him now and wish I hadn't invited her at all :(

What a shitty thing to say. Maybe she meant they're just not close friends? Straw clutching a bit I know.

What a total bitch.
You have 2 choices
Ignore it
Text her saying as she's advised her dd doesn't like your son it's probably better she does not attend.

I'd probably go with the ignoring and never speak or acknowledge her again including at the party.

Also I would not blame the child this is the mothers rudeness

I'm at this mother. Why would you accept an invite from a child your child doesn't like?

I agree with a pp. When you next see her, tell her that in light of the fact that her daughter doesn't like your son then it's perhaps best that she not attend. For her sake. I mean, because obviously she wouldn't want to be a ta a party for someone she doesn't even like, right? Save her the upset huh?

VERY rude of the mother to a) accept the invite and b) tell you that her daughter doesn't like your son but is happy enough to enjoy the party you provide!

Get her told. It's clear she doesn't care to upset you so don't feel the need to be all bloody polite to her!

but the little girl already knows about the invite as my son gave it directly to her. I can't withdraw a party invite from a 6 year old, I'd feel so mean. Think I'll just ignore the mum and make sure she gets the smallest slice of cake in her party bag :(

My mum was pretty awful to me when I was a child. She loved embarrassing me - one thing she did regularly was to loudly ask me if I'd pooed myself when she was walking me into school accross the playground because I stank. She'd also try and stop me having friends by telling my friends parents is accused their child of bullying me etc so I was often really isolated. Please don't take it out on the poor girl, some grown ups are just bastards.

that's awful. No I def won't take it out on the little girl.

I think they like and dislike people from one day to the next at that age. I wouldn't take it to heart. The dm however, I'd give that one a wide berth - what a thing to say! How rude.

What an awful thing to say. We don't invite all the kids in my daughter's class and she isn't close to all of them and we don't know the parents well enough (and we try to keep it small). I think that's perfectly fine, but it's not fine to say, anything more than, we're just having a small party and hope you aren't offended we couldn't include x. That's all that needed to be said. That's an awfully unkind thing to say. No, I wouldn't rescind the invite (because you don't actually know if it's true anyway, mum could just be a big bitch), but I would be hurt and upset with her for saying that anyway.

Did she maybe mean "my child doesn't like yours enough to prioritise him for a space-limited activity party"?