baby to toddler cries endlessly

[northernshepherdess]

My baby is now 15 months. And he cries non stop except when eating or feeding.
He has done this since he was born.
He normally starts as he is sitting up from waking and doesn't stop until he sleeps.
If he's not actually crying he is mooing... ie making a crying sound but not crying properly.
He was born with undiagnosed hidden reflux and was taken into hospital at 4 to 5 months after hidden aspiration caused a massive infection but he didn't show any signs of illness until his breathing began to fail.
He cannot be consoled.. he will cry at my feet and as soon as I pick him up he struggles to get down, as soon as he touches the floor he cries more determinedly.
We have had non stop crying today from 7.30 til 12 noon. This is normal for him.
When he wakes in a short while... he will begin again.
Everyday...all day.
The health visitor suggested getting full blood work done just to check theres nothing causing him pain. And a course of antibiotics just in case.

I think this may be the cause of him not talking (hes 15months and doesnt say any words at all)
The whole household is extremely stressed as we cannot even talk to another without having to shout over his crying, we can't bear music or tv or even the dogs barking.
He's sometimes quiet in the car so going out is a relief but then he goes to sleep so when we get home his crying is renewed.
But he doesn't want anything... we just cannot work out why he's so angry/stressed/upset... everything we try just seems to make him angrier.
It took me a long time to have him and I had 3 miscarriages and nearly lost him so it's breaking my heart to have him so distressed.
Does anyone have any advice?

*edit... I put the early crying down to the reflux... but it has never stopped

You poor thing, it is so hard. My second cried non stop and looking back I don't know how I did it. I never found out the cause with ds, and the gp just fobbed me off with "some babies cry a lot" so if your health visitor is taking you seriously then that's a good start. I do think maybe it partly became habit for ds as he still cries a lot compared to other 9 year olds!

I found that although I dreaded going to groups etc with ds because of the crying he was often better whilst we were at them so I found several I could go to and hoped it wasn't going to be a bad day when I went.

He was also often better for other people so one of my friends used to have him for an hour or so just so I had a break from the crying.

I'm sorry I don't have any answers on how to stop the crying but really hope it improves soon for you

Get him referred to paediatrician for full assessment speech learning development physical etc .

This sounds incredibly difficult and upsetting for you. I hope you are getting some emotional support to help you handle things.

My MIL describes DH as being like this as a baby and young toddler. She said it was awful and the single factor that stopped her from having further children. She kept pushing and pushing for the doctors to do something and eventually they uncovered a problem with his ears (my MIL isn't very good at describing or offering details). DH had grommets put in at about 2 years old, and apparently changed temperament overnight. She said he became calm and happy.

The crying was due to pain and discomfort, which was heartbreaking for the family to realise. This was 30+ years ago so I would expect doctor's would be able to diagnose similar issues much more quickly these days.

It is good that the Health Visitor is taking this seriously and I would encourage you to make sure all medical explanations are explored.