When does everything stop being a fight with a toddler?

[Summerdays2014]

Hi,

I know my 20 month old son is being completely normal but... everything seems like a fight every day at the moment. Getting him dressed, getting him undressed. Getting him in the bath then getting him out. Changing nappies, washing hands/face/teeth. Getting in the pushchair, in the high chair, in the car seat, to walk in the direction we're going, to put something down or pick something up... I could go on!

I'm trying all the usual tricks-giving a limited choice, time warnings, advanced warning etc. I know he's not being naughty, just trying to be independent and have some control and I'm firm and consistent with the things that matter like teeth and road safety, but it's exhausting!

When, if ever!, can I expect the stage to end?

Thanks everyone.

When they are a bit more independent and can do things for themselves. Try doing less. There is less to fight about!

DS is nearly 3.5 and I feel like we are just getting to the point where it's not a battle all the time. Some things totally still are but he walked around town the other day reasonably well with very little instruction/bribery/threats. It felt like a break through.

Sorry no suggestions, but just wants to say 'Amen, I hear ya!!' My 20 month old is exactly the same. So lovely, but driving me mad!! His latest hilarious game is throwing everything, toys, food, shoes, my car keys 😫

Ds 25 still has his moments.
A fair while to go op. .

Mine is 2.5 and can still be bloody hard work, a lot of the time.

I found things started getting easier at age 3. Going through it all again now with my 20 month old.

Errrrm. I think you've got a whole to go yet 😬

With DS1 the terrible twos and threes were dire. He is now 4, nearly 5 and he is much much easier because I can explain things, barter and bribe him and threaten him 😜

*while

When they turn 3 so technically everything is now a battle with your preschooler? (Helpful)

I try to pick my battles, it's the only thing that's made a difference sadly. She's 3yo now. As she's grown and become more independent the battles have changed, but are sadly just as frequent.

Well I guess that's what I expected... Lots of fun to come then!