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Koala7 · 22/09/2017 09:20

First time on here and I’m after some advice. Been with my partner 4 years and I have 8 year old son from previous marriage. We don’t live together but spend time in each other’s houses. At his last night, I had made dinner for the 3 of us. Messages between us were fine, he got home and all was fine. We sit down for dinner and he’s given me a lot more than I wanted. I said I didn’t want that much and had purposefully given myself a small amount. He then throws my dinner back onto my placemat. I took offence to this and said I would eat in the kitchen as it wasn’t nice to do that. After I walked out he slammed the door so loud I thought he had broken it. Then stormed around swearing and saying he was leaving. He didn’t, just shut himself in the front room ironing. I went to check on my son who was still at the table, he was shaking and crying as he was so frightened. At that point I knew I needed to leave to protect him, which I did. My partner is not violent and would never be so but his behaviour was so unusual and so volatile I had to leave. Not heard from him since and not sure what to do. Any thoughts? I’m just so lost with all this and need some advice.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 18:09

Have you heard from him today OP? How's your DS today?

Koala7 · 22/09/2017 18:22

Not heard from him at all today. DS told his childminder about it coz he was worried.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 18:41

YIU both seem really scared by this man and his outburst. If it were me, I'd be tempted to cut my losses and walk away. I really think you need to leave him to protect yourself and your little boy.

What does your gut instinct say?

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Koala7 · 22/09/2017 18:53

He’s never been violent and never would be. I think I’m just so shocked by his out of character behaviour I don’t know what to do or think. My first thought is protecting my DS. But if he does contact me do I allow him to try and explain?

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 19:09

He might now have hit you (yet) but he's shown a high level of anger of something very trivial. If I were on my own I wouldn't stay around for an apology, never mind with a small child in tow. You have to do what's right for your DS and that includes not exposing him to people who scare him.

Koala7 · 22/09/2017 19:25

Thank you for the advice. I think you have confirmed what I thought in my heart. I love him but I have to put my DS first. And to be honest, by not contacting me to even apologise shows how little I mean.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 20:02

I think you're right. Look after yourself and your little boy. You both deserve better Thanks

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