Fed Up

[cmwlocal76]

Am I the only person who gets fed up of being a parent? I don't like to feel like this as I know that there are many who would love nothing more than to be one. I love my children dearly. But I feel like it is a relentless struggle at times. I've a 17 & 6 year old. Both are good kids really although my youngest moans a lot and my oldest is extremely untidy. I'm bored to tears off the cooking and cleaning. I'm the only one that does it. I don't expect them to do much but I feel like I'm moaning about it all the time. Having a 17 year old stresses me as I feel I don't have a lot of control over him anymore and constantly worry about his future and if anything awful will happen to him.

You have far more control than you realize. Both of your kids need discipline and life skills, and it's not too late to change things. Your 17 yo needs to be given more responsibility and if they don't do as they are told, you need to make him face the consequences. There is no reason a 17 yo can't help with making dinner and cleaning the house. The same goes for your 6 yo. They need age appropriate chores to do and clear consequences of they fail to do them. Instilling self-reliance in your children is so important.

I totally get what your saying. Both of them are not miss behaving by any means but the untidiness from my eldest and the moaning from my youngest drives me nuts. It feels like a constant battle sometimes. We have had a tough ride over the last few years with my youngest dad dying suddenly when she was 2 days old. I suppose I'm always thinking how easier things would be if he was here.

I suppose I'm always thinking how easier things would be if he was here.

In which case I'd say you're not fed up of your kids, there's still grief inside you

I know I'm still grieving. I do have a partner now but it's not the same. I miss the 'happygolucky' person that I once was. I was less intense before that happened and now feel miserable most of the time