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Ladycremer · 16/09/2017 21:12

I am a mother to 5. 3 over 18 and 2 under 3. I'm doing a renovation and money is tight and move in has been delayed. I'm paying rent and a mortgage. I'm tired as I'm dealing with 2 babies. I have health problems including cardiac. All relevant I think.
My oldest came home from uni for a few days and expects me to cook and clean for him. Which I do. I'm not sure why he comes home as he just sleeps. We spend little time together unless it's me treating him to food out etc. He's extremely rude. Something I've not noticed before. Others have told me he's rude and selfish but I've not noticed before. I've have noticed though that the less I see of him the more I see it. Anyway. He wanted me to drive him to uni and move him. It's 2 hours away. I agreed. Took 3.5 hours with traffic and when we got to the house I realised he wasn't packed and ready to go. We did several trips to move him but time was getting on and I was anxious to get home to my youngest who I knew wouldn't settle without me. His attitude was.......well you knew why you were coming. I said yes. To move you. Not pack for you. He was rude and I shouted etc. Anyway. Move all done and I rang him say I was finally home. And I suspected my youngest was inconsolable. So ive messaged him a few times to ask how he's settling in. Nothing. Today I jokingly said. You talking to me yet. He said. No not until you appologise to me for how you shouted at me. I just said. Ok. Ummmmmm AIBU to think you'll be waiting a while then. He's 23 btw

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 16/09/2017 21:34

How much did you shout and what did you say?

Heartofglass12345 · 17/09/2017 01:09

He sounds like he need to grow up! Many people have families at his age. I wouldnt be apologising, you were doing him a favour!

Ladycremer · 17/09/2017 01:13

I was shouting come on hurry up. You said you were packed. I have to get home. He was rude as he normally is so I shouted stop being so rude. Nothing major and lasted about 30 seconds. He's always been very bratty but I'm used to it I guess but something snapped that day.

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Heartofglass12345 · 17/09/2017 12:52

I think he needs to learn to stand on his own two feet, especially as you have little ones to look after now. Be firm with him lol. I had finished uni, got a job and moved out by the time i was 22!

Ladycremer · 17/09/2017 15:31

Thank you heart. It's my own doing I know but this is the first time I will stand my ground. I even rent out a house for him so when he comes home after I move he'll have his own place. Think I am going to cancel that tenancy.

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Heartofglass12345 · 17/09/2017 18:20

You have only done what you think is right from him and you are obviously a caring and thoughtful mum -i hope he realises how lucky he is soon xx

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