Baby no. 2... when is the right time?!

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This is more of a rant but I'm so fed up of everyone telling me to have baby no. 2.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day and letting it get to me but I have my reasons and the main thing is money! It costs £1200 a month to send my child to nursery , now that the 30 hours free childcare have come into place it's saving me a hell of a lot of money but we have a few loans (silly I know but we had to do what we had to do a few years ago ) so we are paying those off early but still have a long time to go!
Actually... I don't need to explain myself to anyone, I just know that we will seriously struggle to get by if we ha another baby and I'm fed up of the in law constantly bringing it up. No matter what I say ( respond with valid reasons or even just laugh her off) she still persists to ask so much so that I am now avoiding her coz she's always drunk and always brings it up. Saying that "oh money will find u, you'll be fine etc. "

It's my body and me and my partner are quite happy to wait till we are in a good position!

Like I said there are so many reasons why we are waiting and I know I don't need someone to tell me how to live. One of them is DP security of his job next year so I know we are doing the right thing but just wanted to know if anyone else gets the same pestering that we do?!

Rant over! Thanks to anyone who has listened lol

I think there's a sudden expectation of having another once you have one. Before DD's first birthday I was getting the question of when number 2 was coming, and for some reason a lot of people seem to think everyone is going to want an age gap of 2 years!
I couldn't think of anything worse than 2 under 2, on a personal level. I knew I wouldn't have coped, never mind the practicalities. My DD is now 2 and a half, and we've just started trying again. But there will be a minimum gap of 3 and a quarter years.
You sound entirely sensible to wait for another baby. My reasons are more that I know I wouldn't have coped with another before DD was 3 or over.
Just keep ignoring it, I'm so relieved we've waited to achieve the minimum gap we've wanted.

Personally I made sure there was a minimum gap of 3 years so that I would have the 3 year old funding for the first one and wouldn't have two at home full time.