19 months pp issues sorry tmi

[xxxParisexxx]

all, new member here and quite a tmi thread sorry blush
I wonder if anyone else has a prolapse after the birth of their baby. I have a rectocele and a cystocele. (Bowel and bladder) this can be fixed by surgery but after I have finished my family.
This affects my life alot. I have bowel trouble and our sex life is awful. It is either so very very painful or on the rare occasions it doesn't, I feel absolutely nothing. No pleasure what so ever, I think the nerves are shot.
My question is, I feel somewhat trapped and rushed in that I really want this fixed but this can only be done once I have my family. I only have the one DD and wanted to have another when she is around 2 1/2 or 3. confused
Anyone else been in this situation? It's really getting me down. Thanks all

Hi, sorry to hear this is getting you down so much. I too have had some sort of prolapse, .... I know you're probably thinking what ??? I didn't know I had til a few months ago. My youngest is nearly 2. It was only when I had a coil fitted I was told by GP. I said I didn't know I had.... she never gave me anymore information or anything. Thats why im not sure what type etc. However in all honesty it doesn't affect my life very much at all..... I'm sorry for your situation. The only thing is sex has always been a bit uncomfortable since after my eldest (now 4), and I've never known why.... I think this may have been the cause. I suppose really I should make appt and speak to GP.

Have you been offered a ring pessary? It's a stop-gap treatment. Ask about it.

Sorry, to expand, you keep it in all of the time. It helps to take up the lax tissues and might help.

You could look into adoption. I'd want to find out all of my options. For example, could you have the surgery then deliver by section later?

Would you consider the surgery now and then maybe ceasarean with your next child(ren) ? Just a thought.

Adoption?? I'm not sure of the relevance here??
Not been offered a ring pessary or pessary of any sort. The gynacologist said a pessary is not appropriate for me. He also said it's not just a natural birth that could make the prolapse come back but the actual pregnancy itself so to have the surgery then get pregnant could mean it all being undone x

I just meant that you have options other than carrying your next baby yourself. You could look into adoption or fostering which wouldn't make your condition worse.