Have a failed my baby?

[AmyJessicax26]

Basically my baby's dad has Hereditary spastic paraplegia which causes spactisity in the legs weakens balance and he walks the only way to describe is cerable Palsy I'm aware these are not things to be ashamed of but I can't help but keep myself up at night wondering if I've failed him ? My partners parents didn't know of his fathers condition and expected it was cp but I was aware that there was a 50% chance of our son inheriting the condition ?😭 I love them both regardless but can't help but feel that I could've given my baby a better chance in life I know how depressed it makes my partner and his youngest sibling as they both carry the disorder 😩 Any advice at this point would be great but I really do love my son before I get attacked for people thinking I'm ashamed or anything of the so r I'm just worried about how this will effect him growing up

Neither you or your DP have failed your DS. Neither of you have chosen to harm or neglect your DS, he may or may not have a genetic condition.
I really hoped I wouldn't pass on my dyslexia to either of my DC but I think it has impacted one of them. I do feel guilty at times about that but I try and focus on what I have learned from having it not just the rubbish bits.
Your DS will be his own person regardless of what has and hasn't been passed onto him.

I just feel guilty because i knew :(

He will be his own person I just know how much they was bullied at school etc and his little brothers on the verge of wheelchair bound as he gets older and he's only 12 Atm

You have not failed your baby. Both my parents have a recessive inheritable disability. They had children regardless and none of us have inherited the disability. If I had I certainly wouldn't blame them in any way. My own child is profoundly disabled, something that is not inherited and we had no knowledge of. Just because you know or don't know something dosnt always change the odds. You love your baby and that's all that matters.