ds (nearly 6) still wet at night........ at this rate dd (2.5) will be trained before him! HELP?

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He was dry for ages but started wetting the bed most nights when H and I split up, but that as back in June.

He doesn't wet when he stays at my Mums, or at his Dads. Just at home.

In fact last night I went to bed at 11 and he had wet his bed. I put him in my bed and he wet again in the morning. He's not drinking gallons of fluids.

He's clearly embarassed about it. I've told him he should wear his PJ pants until he's practiced at being dry again, but its really feeling like there's no light at the end of the tunnel.

Do I need to speak to the HV?

don't want your post to go unanswered, so excuse me if i write really obvious stuff you have already thought of!

How about waking him to go to the loo? try about an hour after he goes to bed, when you go to bed, and then about 5 ish - you'll obviously be tired but he shoud get into the habit without you.

You could also try presenting a 'united' front with your XH if possible - just be around each other and take him out for a day trip or something. Explain you are not going to stay together - but both still love him etc - it seems this was his trigger

I'm sure others will have much better ideas - good luck!

My dd1 is 5.5 and still wets the bed sometimes, not every night but at least 3-4 times a month. I don't make an issue of it. We still have a plastic sheet on her bed.

Thanks folks,

The waking thing is an option, but I work fulltime and have to be up at 6.30am...... I'd be knackered! But I s'pose it's a means to an end.

Things aren't exactly amicable between ex and I. He was exonerated in court in January for assaulting me in June. He went 3 months with no contact with the kids.

Spending time together with ex isnt an option. Although we are totally civil with each other during the 'handover'.

Same here. DD is 5 and I've put her back in pull ups because she suddenly flipped from being dry every night (at age 3.5) to being wet a couple of nights a week. She is in a double bed and I just got fed up of the constant washing and drying. I don't know what happened but she's just not reliably dry at the moment. She doesn't mind wearing the pull ups at all and she says that she'll tell me when she is ready to go without. DS is 3 next month and he has a dry nappy most mornings.......

ds1 was dry for about 5 months when he potty trained at 3.3 - then he had chicken pox, and has wet heaviliy ever since.

I don't know how to get him back to dry - I didn't night train him in the first place, he trained himself.

When your son is 7, you can take him to the GP and insist on some help, so you won't be on your own if this carries on much longer.

What about a chocolate biscuit for every dry pull up?

No help but I have a similar situation. DS is nearly 5 and wears a pair of PJ pants (aka a nappy) every night. I take him to the loo at 11 every night but his nappy is still totally full every morning.

He has never had a dry night and is beginning to be sensitive about it. He admitted last night he did a wee in his nappy shortly after getting into bed though!

My ds is also nearly 6 (may) and still wears pj pants every night. He isn't wet everynight and sometimes has good patches where he is dry for maybe 2 whole week, btu then may be wet 3 or 4 times a week for week on end. There seems to be no trigger, but he has never been dry at night.

I am not too worried as it appears to run in the family. My brother was still having the odd accident at 12 and my dh was 8 or 9 when he was finally completely dry at night. Thankfully, ds1 isn't embarrased or anything, but that could come from never having been dry at night, so he doesn't exactly know any different.

in one of my old families the 5 year old (boy) was dry at night reliably before his 9 year old brother!

Dont worry too much about it, they all get there in the end, and by 9 years he wasnt having many accidents, just occcasionaly.

Hmmm, I came on ready to say 'it will happen when it happens' (My 2.5 yo DS2 is dry at night, and has been for months. He's not toilet trained at all.)

But if he only wets at home, and has only wet since your divorce, then it sounds like there might be something psychological up, maybe a side effect of the break-up? I'd be tempted to talk to the HV about maybe getting some help, have a chat with a professional (someone more professional than an HV).