How did your terrible two turn out?

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DD1 is approaching 3. She's always been very stubborn strong willed but I am having daily battles with her at the moment about everything and anything, it's wearing me down and I can't see it getting any better. She loves slanting her eyes, stomping her feet and shouting IT'S NOT FAIR! Another favourite is 'GO AWAY, I DON'T LIKE YOU!' Usually accompanied by an attempted door slam. How can one so little have so much rage and angst? (DD2 is 3 months so could be an explanation but she was definitely 'highly strung' way before her arrival). She's now hitting/kicking/shrill screaming during a meltdown and it's now happening in public too. I dread taking her anywhere as I know when I tell her (with plenty of notice) that it's time to leave there's going to be a scene.

Whenever she is spoken to when out and about she just scowls and looks away.

However, When she's not being a hormonal toddler she is actually the sweetest, most gentle and loving little girl. I know I need to focus on this but it's just so hard when you are ground down every single day. I feel a lot of it is her personality and when I think towards the future I just see an older child stomping her feet and telling me to go away!

So, cheer me up. Tell me about your terrible toddlers who grew up into docile, coherent and pleasant children/teenagers/adults.

Following this for (hopefully) positive stories. Have 3 1/2 year old DS who is also a monster. Favourite sayings include "DON'T SPEAK TO ME LIKE THAT" & "GO AWAY MUMMY". He is also in a lovely charming stage of making the most awful whinging noise anytime the smallest thing bothers him & is a genuine horror on most outings. He used to be so lovely & calm! Due baby no.2 in 3 weeks & pulling my hair out!!

Honestly, I've found age 3 was worse than 2. He's just turned 4 and he's much better behaved now, but we definitely had more tantrums for a year or so as he became more independent. Consistency is best, it'll calm down

@FrizzyTizzy good luck, your DS is older so will hopefully come out the other side sooner than my DD but right now she loves being carried and rocked like a baby, she crawls around on the floor saying 'goo goo ga ga' and doesn't like it if you speak to her properly without 'babying ' her. I know I know, totally natural response to having a baby in the house but doesn't make it any less annoying!

My eldest, DD was dreadful!!! But at around 3.5 years old she suddenly changed!! She's almost nine now and a different child, so caring and loving ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

My son ....... 🐒🐒🐒🐒🐒 he's five

My ds aged now 5 was so terrible at two that I would leave the supermarket in tears. Stroppy, tantrums, refusing everything. He is now one of the best behaved children I know, is rarely in trouble, and just did the entire of reception without ever once moving down the behaviour board. It seems they really do grow out of it!

Ds2 is 23 months and I can already see the TT's bubbling away under the surface ready for his birthday this month! Dreading it!

My DD (now 12) was a classic terrible twoer. At the slightest provocation she would drop to the floor and scream. The worst thing was that she would bang her head repeatedly on the floor when I went to collect her at nursery, I think she was so angry that I had left her there, but it was so upsetting and humiliating when all the other kids were running to hug their mums! Now, however, she is the sweetest, loveliest, most obedient tween. Nothing I did, just the passing of time. It's hard when you are in it, but it does end!

Thank you for all the positivity!

Even as a baby DD1 was angry, I've been waiting for her to mellow for a while!