Am I depressed?

[Lorddenning1]

Ok here goes, I don't know if I'm depressed or if I'm a bit down, I will list the things I think are the cause of my mood,

1. I am overweight since having baby number 2, around 2 and a half stone, I am normally a confident person but the weight gain is getting me down, I am breastfeeding and have gained weight since having the baby (not lost any) i don't want to go on a diet yet as I do not want to mess with my milk.
2. We have no money, the money we saved to go on maternity has gone, due to unexpected bills, and I feel like I cannot enjoy my maternity (I have 2 months left) I am having to pay for food and things on my credit card, I have run up £1,500 since being on my maternity.
3. My nan has just died so I am fine one minute and then cry the next :(

So I'm fat, have no money and I'm grieving, I do not want to go back to work early because I will never get this time off with my babies, I also hate where I work and I will be looking for a new job after Christmas, I also can't get too excited about getting more money when I go back to work as my childcare will be around £900 per month (I will get help with tax credits but not a lot)

Am I depressed or just having a bad time of things :(

Didn't want to read and run! I can't say if you're depressed but you certainly are having a bad time of things

It's easier said than done but try not get too focused on the weight gain at the moment. Could you make slight changes like walking an extra 20 minutes a day or cutting back on any sugary foods etc? (Sorry, it's very generic advice, but I don't know if you've already done this or what your day & current diet is like!) Small changes really do add up over time.

I know you say you don't want to go back to work early but you also say you feel like you can't enjoy your maternity leave because of no money, so is it worth getting into more debt? Especially as you say childcare will be costing a lot, I'm assuming you won't have much left over to pay off the credit card debt? Is part time an option?

I'm sorry about your nan, that on top of everything else won't be helping your mood. Do you have support from friends and family?

I'm sorry, that's such a miserable position to be in.

It never hurts to talk to a GP or HV you trust or like. Sometimes everything just gets too much and you need some support to get through x