Those traditional old values - grrrrrrrr!

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

Just on for a rant. Conversation with my mum today ..... I mentioned that I intend to get out one evening a week to go to the gym or an exercise class to get some me time and get fit. Her reply - well as long as DH is happy putting the kids to bed. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhh. I have no-one who gets it in my family. My mum thinks I should do everything she did in her generation and shut up coz if I don't my DH will dump me and it'll be my fault.

Now just remember VG - keep young and beautiful, if you want to be loved!

And don't forget to warm his slippers

You cant win obviously cos surely your DH will dump you if you are not fit and that will be your fault too!!!

I hope you reminded her that they're his kids too!

LOL at Greeny's "keep young and beautiful". After DD's birth, my Mum presented me with this truly awful red "teddy" and told me to make sure I made myself "inviting" to DH when he got home from work as I didn't want him to look elsewhere

Ooh I get this when we go to visit mum & dad as well. When DH finally changes a nappy after extreme prompting from me, all done much more politely than the slightly more direct version he gets at home, they act as if he has done some slightly sacred act.

Ooh he has changed a nappy, ooh they didn't do that in my day, oooh you've got a good one there. Cue DHs head visibly swelling thinking yes I am a good one, yes DW is lucky to have me, crikey what a fab dad I am,arrrghhhhh. Must be great being a bloke, I'd love to get that response every time I changed a nappy.

Also got a birthday card for DS for his 1st birthday from my aunt with a picture of a cake. Inside it said "Come on mum get baking you used to make nice cakes" What part of me working 4 days a week and looking after DS does she not get that she thinks i have the spare time to be making sodding cakes.

Oops I appear to have gone into a non related rant......

And does your mother do everything her mother did?

Handwashing in the bath so only have a bath once a week?

Meat, vegetables and potatoes every day of the week and no convenience foods?

Stand up for God Save The Queen every night at 10pm and then go to bed in a horror nightie and curlers?

Wear a 'house coat' indoors and a headscarf outside?

Church every Sunday?

etc etc

When we visited MIL she told me that dh shouldn't be changing dd's nappy as it was the mother's job.

Oh and I also had a weekend of the in-laws comments ... DD had a wee accident and I had no change of clothes. FIL, pontficating from his armchair, says I shouldn't be encouraging my child to run around in no knickers and don't I have any spare clothes.

Erm it was an accident, she usually doesn't do this, and btw, they are your son's kids too.

I also had to chase around after a 2 and 3 year old, in a non-child friendly house whilst DH sat and reverted to form just like his fecking dad and needed more than a nudge from me to get up of his ass and give me a sodding hand.

Oh and whilst the menfolk sat talking about manly things in the living room, the (other) women automatically drifted to the kitchen to prepare lunch.

I am also no allowed to say that parenting is hard work, nor am I allowed to say how nice it is to get a bit of piece else my mum thinks that the end of the world is nigh.

I remember going to MIL house with my 3 year old and 3 month old twins. While I was upstairs bf the boys, I heard MIL at the bottom of the stairs. I had sterilised bottles and asked her to ask DH to fill them as a top up to bf before bed.

Her reply (and I still don't believe it) was "he's reading the paper, I'll tell him when he's finished"

I waited 5 minutes and called him. He (of course) was happy to help but she hadn;t told him.

My 86 year gran often grasps my hand and with an emotional whisper tells me that i must try not to be so difficult, i'm so lucky to have found a man to put up with my demanding and unusual ways, and i really must try harder to keep him by doing more cooking and being less awkward.

I'm not that bad, i've never given her a chinese burn for being so rude.

This thread has me PMSL!!
VG - if you went to the gym, does that mean your DH would be babysitting?
Must learn from this to start as we mean to go on when bump arrives! PILs will be fine I think, but although my dad has always been hands on (sure he changed nappies etc) my mum think the sun shines out of his (my DH's) bum, so is likely to make him feel he has performed a miracle when he changes the first nappy in her presence!

Loopsy - you have got to be kidding!

More worryingly I was retelling the tale to my DH and he looked like he was desperate to agree with my mum but knew it would be divorce to have said so.