don't know how to feel/potentially move forward

[absolutelynot]

All of my children are vaccinated. They are all entering R, Yr1 and Yr2. So as you can see i have quite a nice breeding ground that I try to keep at bay. Just randomly come across mother in the village, who my daughter attends Rainbows with and is due to start school with, after some homeschooling; via a fb post discloses her kids aren't vaccinated and it is due to the controversial literature around it.

I have my opinion on vaccinations, as a result my kids are, any new one that pop up will be entering their system, I can guarantee. The fact she hasn't vaccinated her children is her own issue. But for some reason, I am really really really really uncomfortable with her child being around my daughter. I understand that the school/rainbow leader may not be aware, but just as they wouldn't of disclosed the presence of a potentially immuno-compromised child.

Have read other threads on this and it can often spiral into a "don't assume i'm crazy because my kid isn't vaccinated!"..."but you are though"....rhetoric. I know its a divisive subject. Just not sure how to handle the weird feeling I have about it or if it is even appropriate to feel weird.

Well, isn't the point of them being vaccinated to protect them?

Others make decisions not to vaccinate that aren't based around a particular political or lifestyle stance and discussing those in a rational way can be difficult.

What it comes down to is that vaccinations are voluntary, so if you feel uncomfortable about your children being around non vaccinated children, it is worth remembering some children cannot be vaccinated. That's a long winded way of saying your vaccinations are your child's pass to safety: let others do what they do.

think of it like the 'flu jab - not everyone has that and it's only given to protect that person against the 'flu but it doesn't stop you from socialising with those who haven't had the jab. You have protected your kids so the fact that she hasn't shouldn't worry you

I would agree that the main people that mother has putvat risk is her own children. Unless your kids are immune compromised I wouldn't worry.

And non-vaccinated kids aren't at greater risk of being exposed to a disease, they just are more at risk of catching it IF exposed to it

totally Softshells. Usually am very "each to their own", maybe just end of six weeks tiredness is hitting my sensibilities.

I have this worry as well as a member of my family doesn't vaccinate. DS is 10mo so hasn't had all jabs yet and I'm not comfortable to have him playing with unvaccinated children until he's fully vaccinated himself.

It's not the case that the vaccination makes you completely immune to the disease - it's a bit more complicated than that. Vaccines don't work as effectively on some people, and there are some vaccines that require boosters from time to time (for example, in spite of having had the measles vaccination as a child, I still caught measles at age 11 because I missed a booster during an epidemic and I was pretty ill).

If everyone is vaccinated then the fact that a few people aren't, or a few people haven't been vaccinated effectively, won't make any difference. Once vaccination levels drop below a certain level in the population we no longer benefit from herd immunity and the disease can spread (and mutate). I think levels have dropped to that point nowadays so I'm very wary.