Nearly lost my sh*t

[thesleepsheep]

For the first night tonight, my 5 week old was totally inconsolable. My 3 year old upstairs could hear and was crying too. All in the first night that my dh was back on late nights. And I'm recovering from a sickness bug. I tried everything. Last resort going for a drive. Just made it worse. And it just makes me feel like the worlds worst mum. To the point where (if he'd bloody answered) I'd have called my dh crying. Just currently feeling like a bad mum and needed to vent somewhere

Oh I'm with you.
I also have a three year old and a five week old, and dinner/bed time is marked by the baby having a clusterfeed freak out.

You are NOT a bad mother. If you are, then so am I. It's hard to make it all work (and manage to get yourself anything to eat). I hope your baby is now asleep, and you've managed to get dinner and a drink. You're doing just fine

It's so hard! I'm just waiting for that routine people talk about but it's not coming. Yes they are both asleep, next to me on the sofa, but asleep nonetheless! I've had leftover pizza and a cup of tea. Rock n roll

You are not a bad mother it is fucking hard. I had a very similar situation when mine were 3 and a tiny baby I actually drove with the kids to my friends house woke her up in the small hours and handed her a screaming baby.

Oh god I'm so glad I'm not the only one! You feel so alone when it's happening too. It feels next to impossible.

Mine are 3 years and almost 6 months. My DH is on a late shift as well. DD took over 2 hours to settle to sleep, the baby woke up THREE times during those 2 hours (teething? He was a terrific sleeper until a few weeks ago). I got so cross with DD. They are both asleep now, the washing needs to come in, the kitchen still needs cleaned after dinner and I just want to cry :(

It is very hard. The feeling of guilt about how unfair for the baby to cry for so long when pfb was rarely put down, the guilt that 3yo is being woken and disrupted. But the 3yo will get used to it and the baby will settle into a routine eventually. Mine are now 16mo and 3.6yo and they are in the same room and generally drop off by 8pm. It is hard work but it will get better.

Could ye all get into your bed together. 3 year old would feel comforted. You would at least be lying down and hopefully baby would nod off. Do whatever it takes to stay sane.

It's definitely the guilt that gets me. Guilt that I've not been able to cuddle 3yo when she says she needs one. That I can't console 5week old. That I'm not a bloody miracle worker lol. They have both nodded off. And I don't dare move

I've come to bed. The washing up can wait til morning. The baby is asleep on me, apparently finally sated...

I'm going to try and get the small amount of sleep possible before this one wakes up, but I agree about the guilt - we're doing our best, that's all we can do.

I must have nodded off too. Just woke to hungry baby! Hope you managed some sleep