DD screams bloody murder at bed time

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If anyone other than I put her to bed she gets herself into such a state and gets so upset. Cries so much, I think she thinks I'm going to leave her or something. Is this a phase that all toddlers go through? Anything I can do here to help? I am going out next week and dh will be alone and I don't want her to do this and get herself worked up like this ...

What happens when she does this? What do you do?

I hug her and she calms right down. Put her in her cot and she falls asleep. If my DH tries she just gets upset calling out Mummy Mummy - no tantrums or anything. Just so upset.

Ok so from her point of view it's worth doing all that tantruming because mummy will give in and come. If you're not there I doubt she will kick up quite the fuss.

What you do to solve this really depends on you and how committed you really are. It doesn't sound that difficult to fix.

Best way to fix it - just leave her to cry?

Is that how you see it? Allowing her father, who loves her as much as you do, to learn how to comfort her so that when you are not there she will not be distressed. She will not be left to cry but loved and supported by her dad while she learns to settle without you. I see that as a better outcome than you always taking over. It must be denting his confidence and reinforcing your dd's thought that she cannot cope without you, which of course is not true.

I'm not sure i'd consider it a bad thing for a small child to know that her mum will come if she's really upset. She's just not old enough to be manipulating people. She is just very attached to you at the moment, it's not a reflection on how she feels about her dad. My DD went through this stage as a 1 year old, so I just did her bedtimes for a while. It soon passed. Yes, if I couldn't be there her dad would step in and it was ok, they just got through it. I remember panicking once about leaving them for an afternoon/bedtime when I had to go out but it wasn't a problem. I think maybe because I hadn't been there during the day they just got on with it together and she didn't cry for me.
So in my opinion, if you're there and she wants you, give her the hugs she needs. I think helping her feel secure will help the phase pass quicker. If you're not there, it will probably work out just fine!
My DD was really attached to me when she was little, but by around 18 months she had no preference for me over her dad or grandparents. I almost miss it now!!

this situation isn't good for any of you really is it? How does it make your DH feel? And it's got you all anxious about going out for the evening. She will have to settle with daddy sometime so perhaps your night out is the perfect opportunity?

My 2.5 year old does this as he doesn't want to go to bed. I leave him to shout and he's asleep in 5 minutes.

I wouldn't do it to a 1 year old but he understands it's bedtime - he's just very cross about it.

Depending on how old DD is I'd consider letting DH put her to bed.

There was a stage where my dh would put her to bed and she'd be absolutely fine but a few weeks ago I went out while she was in the bath and since then she's just wanted me.

9 times out of 10 I am there to put her to bed as my dh works late and isn't home in time so i don't think it bothers him. At weekends I get him to help and do the bath and change into pjs and I am always there on hand and she still gets very upset by this. We have left her with my DH's DS as we had to go to a wedding and she was absolutely fine without me as his DS has two children so I think that distracted her for a bit.

I know I'm going to just have to leave her next week and I know she will go to sleep but the idea of her being upset wanting me upsets me. With time I know she will get over this it's just difficult

How old is she?

Nearly 19 months