Is 3 DC with little family support doable ?

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I have 2 boys. DH would love to have a 3rd DC. I'm undecided.

On the one hand I adore our boys and a third child would be just as wonderful.

On the other hand I've read so many threads about how the 3rd tends to tip you over the edge!

Our lives are relatively simple ATM and I can't decide whether to take advantage of that and stick at 2 or add a 3rd into the mix.

We don't have any close family to help, but neither do we have financial concerns. We would have to move but a move is on the cards in the next 9-18 months anyway.

Our boys are 3 and 6 so I'm also worried about a potential age gap being too big for them to all play together / enjoy the same holidays/trips out etc.

I'm a single mum of 6 with no support so yes, definitely

Children are a parents responsibility not their grandparents or other family members.
No one should choose to have a child expecting someone else to help raise it.

I'm one of 3, and there's about the same age gap between us as yours. My parents raised us with no close family nearby. They were young and skint, too. It was fine! You'll be fine whatever way. I'm sure my mum says that by third it was just more of the same, the second was more of a shock. Age gaps were deliberate though. Downside is it's annoying for family tickets to things, lots are set up for 2 kids only. We left my youngest sibling out a bit when we were little. Then when we got older, the two youngest grew close when I left home. I was close with middle sibling, and could do things like take youngest sibling out with my part time job earnings. Obviously I don't know any different but it all worked fine.

Thanks for your replies.

I wasn't thinking in terms of someone helping to raise our DC, I was thinking that for example if 1 DC is ill, not having to drag him/her out on the school run/to activities etc. Or if a DC is in hospital being able to stay with the DC rather than having to be at home with the others.

Or even if I'm ill, having someone to help out occasionally.

Good point about the younger two getting closer when the older one leaves. The 2 I have are close ATM so I'm concerned the little one would always be left out but of course the dynamics would change as the DC get older.

Id say it depends on you as a person. I have lots of family support and the 3rd child still tipped me over the edge, yet I have friends with 3 or more children with no family support and get through parenthood fairly easily.
Things I find with having 3 children is that everything is more expensive, holidays days out the need of a bigger car etc. Also with a big age gap between the oldest and youngest it's hard to find family activities or days out that suit everyone

Its not about expecting someone else to help raise your child, its about taking your circumstances into consideration when making a decision which is what op is doing. Lots of people have grandparents who happily provide regular childcare or have family local to step in when there is a child sick. Its quite blatantly much harder when you don't and its not unreasonable at all to count on some help.
Op I personally wouldnt want the additional stress of a third. You're outnumbered and so much is set up for families of 4! But then again I've always been sure i only wanted 2.