Not really sure where to put this but here goes, Advice needed

[kimiTheEasterBunny]

My sisters friend had a baby last November.
From the moment she got pregnant she stopped going out, worked from home and worried about everything.

She had the baby who is lovely and my sister went to visit her and her hubby and new DS who was held by mummy and daddy the whole time, not once put down. Sisters friend said she was dreading her hubby going back to work as she would not even be able to have a shower as there was no one to hold the baby!!!

Sis told her that I (sis is childless) used to have a shower when my DS1 was asleep or put him in a bouncy chair by the bathroom door.
Friend felt this was wrong.
So now its April and I was talking to sis yesterday and she said she was worried about her friend as since the baby has been born she has only taken him out once!
She took him to the supermarket, he cryed and she went home leaving her shopping in the trolley in the alse.
She wont take him out in case he need to feed (bf) or needs changeing or crys or is near anyone smoking or catches something.

I think she may have PND but I don't know how to help.

Also she is not giving him anything but breast milk at the moment.
Advice please

I think her not going out and the baby not going out is a huge problem tbh. And kimi, I can understand your concern. Poor woman must feel dreadful. Hope you can help kimi.

"Although I do see that on most post you post on you try to kck it off and have a go rather then be of any help."

I am sorry you feel that Kimi. I do try to say what I feel on threads, including if I feel the OP has got things mixed up. I hope you have found the advice you wanted on this thread.

She has been out once in 5 months? I would say there is a problem.

her health visitor should be going out to see her
my hv was great and kept in touch even though i couldnt be arsed going to baby clinics

i think it would be an idea for her to get in touch with a breastfeeding group, she seems nervous to bf in public, but it wouldnt be a worry at a bf group

as an aside, why do bottle fed babies need water ?

With a breast feed, you get more liquid at the beginning of the feed, then the real thick milk comes through. With a bottle feed, it is all the thick, nutritious stuff. Often,a bottle fed baby will need extra fluid or he/she is in danger of becoming constipated.

htanks cadbury

you learn something every day!

Kimi, it really does sounds if this friend needs help. It is not healthy either physically or mentally never to leave the house, whether you are a nervous first timer or not. It sounds like she has something like agorophobia doesn't it? There's not alot you can do reall., but you sound like a very caring person

I think she sounds depressed too and that you should be concerned. Just not sure what you could do.

Being in a house all day for 5 months would make me depressed too!!