Don't know what to do anymore!

[candicemerlot]

Hey mums! So as some of you know, my DS has moved away for university today and it's been a sad affair! His dad wasn't there to watch him go, and don't start me on DD (Dreaded Daughter!) I asked her to stay and say good bye to him, but she came home 4 hours after he'd left, and her friends pushed her in the porch and ran away as she was rolling around drunk!
I am just to baffled now, I don't know what to do anymore! It's everyday she's coming back drunk and smelling of smoke and she's only 16! I have had to resort to hiding the alcohol in a box in the back garden because if it's not nailed down she will take it, and she stole my debit card yet again, and I don't know whether to ring the police on her again?
I am trying to hard with her, but it's getting me absolutely nowhere, and I am seriously scared that I'm now going to be left alone with her for god knows how long..
Am I a bad parent or not? I just have never known a little girl to be as aggressive and rebellious as she is. I need wine!

Could she feel she is being compared to DS and rebelling?

You mentioned you called the police before - what was her response to that previously?

I'm not sure, I mean I treat them both the same in my eyes but it's hard when she's constantly behaving like this. And the last time I phoned the police on her for stealing my card, she sat on the stairs as they turned up and actually laughed at them as they spoke to her. She just doesn't seem to care

have you tried a therapist? she might be a bit troubled and is acting out due to this.

User:itslindahere, I've tried everything! She's been to CAMHS and a private therapist. I just want to lock myself in the bathroom with a couple of bottles of wine, but of course life is never that easy!

Youre an amazing mummy some kids are just born evil shits xxx

Why do u DRink the wine in the bathroom I drink it in front of them lol x

@amazingmum are you for real? have you any sort of learning difficulty? You don't seem quite right.

If I'm honest, it seems your kids may have some deep-rooted issues... have you neglected any of your children when they are growing up? It's not my business, but I do reccommend to seek therapy with your daughter! Or atleast counselling so you can find what went wrong in your relationship x

Much love, Donna x

User:Amazingmum I know some are born evil but mine is the antichrist im telling you!
User:WinoholicDonna No I have not I have always been there for both my DD and DS, if anything, DS was neglected more. Just wish somebody could wave their wand and sort it out for me.

@candicemerlot Unfortunately it doesn't work that way, I know what you're going through - my DD is also at that age where she's rebelling. Try talking to her and becoming maybe a little closer.. or IDK maybe stop being a psychopathic bitch in my inbox? Maybe that's the root of your family issues...?

Just trynna help x

Is she being bullied, has she been abused/ molested, what are her boyfs like? The drinking is self destructive behaviour, you see it as making your life difficult but that is a result of her damaging herself first.
I don't think people are born shits. THere is usually a reason. Whether you feel the reason justifies the behaviour is another matter.