I have a 5yo DS and an 11week old DD. DD has been thru the mill a little bit, we've had a steady flow of issues to deal. She had an undiagnosed tongue tie led to my stopping breastfeeding after 3 horrible weeks which I am devastated about. Once on formula she showed signs of dairy allergy so we were back and forth to hospital trying to find a suitable milk. Strangely the allergy symptoms seemed to have cleared up so we are back on comfort formula. She had her first round of immunisations couple of weeks ago. And last week we finally had her tongue and lip tie diagnoses and released.
Im feeling absolutely exhausted and run ragged with her and everything that's halpenned. Particularly the emotional strain and disappointment of the undiagnosed tongue tie which I suspected all along. I desperately wanted to breastfeed and am so sad we couldn't. And feel guilty for the troubles she has had on formula because of it. I also feel guilty for and struggling to look after my 5yo who I am really missing - I'm with him, but all my attention seems to have been taken up with DD. When DH home we make sure I have some 1-2-1 time with DS but I still miss him and our usual routine and feel sorry for him that his summer holidays have been crap.
DD wakes up in good spirits but then generally starts screaming and crying till bed time. She won't be put down, so I'm always holding her. I've tried slings which have worked for a day or so but now she just wriggles bad cries in those too. She generally won't settle for anyone else other than me. I can't get anything done round the house, and don't get me wrong, ive long since given up trying to do house work or anything. But I can't even brush my teeth or go to the loo. I dread going in the car anywhere because she screams in the car seat all the way from A-B. I'm so fraught with it I am beginning to carastrophise and wonder if there is something wrong... maybe the TT release was a botched job (her check up was dine tho), or maybe she is dairy allergic after all and it's making her miserable even tho no other symptoms anymore, or maybe the jabs have upset her, or maybe it's teething come early.... Or maybe all of the above as I know it's all a lot for her to deal with. But it dsnt seem to be getting any better. Her sleeping at night has got worse. It's like we are dealing with a newborn again.
a friend said maybe this is just her being a baby, and I just need to ride it out. But I'm miserable and she is miserable and I don't know if this is normal. Does anyone else's baby do this??
We have a couple of nights booked away this week to take DS to a couple of theme parks, no fairground rides, just leisurely ones to wander round. I'm thinking of staying behind with DD because I'm so fed up and worried she will ruin it for us all and I want him to have a good time. But I'm desperate to go with and do something fun as a family. Just can't see how it will work.
Please someone tell me it will get better? 