My ex left me at 8 months pregnant saying he'd decided he did not want to be a father.
I gave birth alone, worked full time and bought a house for me and my son. He had moved abroad and never provided a penny or helped me in any way.
I always left the door open and when my son was 4 he came crawling back. Sponged off me, refused to work and stole a significant amount of money off me. Was always very derogatory towards me and had a gambling problem.
We eventually split up and my son is now 13, he has no idea of how his father behaved as I have kept it well hidden.
There is no doubt that they love each other now and have a close relationship.
He is very manipulative and poisons my son against me. I've found texts from him to my son saying disgusting things about me.
My son is becoming very distant towards me and hardly talks to me. When he's with me I always feel he is hankering to get back to dad. (Dad lets him live in a bachelor pad, late nights, junk food etc) whereas I insist on some order.
I have provided everything for him and still am, his dad has no job so no child support.
I have nursed him through surgery when his dad didn't care and done everything I can to give him the best life possible. I can't tell him about his dad as It would shatter his dreams. His dad wants him to live with him just to spite me.
I feel like I'm losing him and it's breaking my heart. Has anyone experienced similar? How do I deal with my son without slating his dad?